Forgive when you don't want to. It is the right thing to do, right? For whom? It sure doesn't feel right to you when you feel angry or hurt, yes?
Living in happiness may be an art. Certainly it reflects a habitual way of living that keeps you thinking happy thoughts rather than unhappy thoughts.
What you think about causes you to feel a certain way. Sometimes the thought comes first and sometimes the feeling comes first – sort of.
To feel a certain way you decide to feel that way.
That conscious or unconscious choice seems to happen automatically. If that is true then your thoughts come first. On the other hand, if that idea is not accurate then your feelings come first.
Does it matter which comes first?
What matters is how you feel about you. What matters is whether or not you love you.
Actually, however you create your mood, you do so by habit.
What? Where did that come from?
You cannot give what you do not have, right? How can you love another person or thing until you love yourself first? You can’t.
Okay, then, how do you love yourself first? You decide to love yourself first. You choose to live in happiness. You just do it.
Think happy thoughts from your past. Yes there is a time and place to recall, use and feel your past memories.
Focus on the happy times of your life and the moments when you absolutely loved yourself first.
Feed those happy memories energy to keep them alive. Make them big pictures you easily see and feel – and hear, taste and touch. The more senses you involve in re-creating the happy picture the more real those experiences become.
See from inside your body looking out through your eyes rather than watching yourself on a movie screen.
Oh yes, the most important part of living in happiness right now – smile.
You cannot feel more than one emotion in any given moment. When you smile you cannot feel sad.
As you smile, retrieve those memories of when you were so very happy and tell yourself, “I am choosing to be happy now.” Repeat those words (in your mind or out loud) for at least ten seconds.
Create the habit of sitting up straight and walking with your head held high. Move at a brisk pace and lift your feet with every step. Breathe deeply and fully from your diaphragm to take in life in all its glory!
To live in happiness you do it.
Do not stop to think about how to do it. Just create a habit of doing the things I listed above. Pay attention to your breathing, your posture, your walk and your facial expressions all day long. Also pay attention to how you feel – happy or something else.
Create the happiness habit.
Look for something every day that leaves you feeling happy, at peace, or calm. Then share that experience either in writing or out loud.
Guess what happens when you share your happy thought.
Your subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between what is real and what you imagine. You physically and emotionally re-live that moment. Yes, your body produces all the same great feeling chemicals it originally did when the event happened.
Keep up the new behaviors and happy shares routine for 28 days and watch your life change to one of happiness that you won’t even have to think about. You will automatically do the behaviors and actions, and think the thoughts that keep you in happiness.
Yes, even when tough times come into your life, you will use those tools to get through. them.
Miracles happen for everyone. You just have to expect them to see them. And painful experiences also enter every life. The trick is melding the two with gratitude.
All my life I had to figure out everything myself and never ever let anyone know I needed help – or that I was scared. You get the picture, yes?
So when someone told me I could help lots of people by doing this and she had tears in her eyes, well, I want to help you or someone you know so I did it. The results, for me, were life changing. I hope the following does the same for you.