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You Get to Choose Happiness

Yesterday marked the 38th anniversary of my marriage–except that marriage ended seven years ago.

Over the past seven years that date came and went unnoticed by me. For some reason yesterday it came into my awareness and hit really hard. I felt very sad–until I caught myself in that place of unhappiness.

I know it does not serve anyone to stay in an unhappy place. Dang! it lowers your immune system, causes you to focus on other things that feel sad or bad. It makes you attract unhappiness! Yuck!

I immediately grabbed a happy memory and relived it by focusing my attention there.

Wow! Not only did I instantly change my mood–more than that, much more than that–I remembered how we talked long and hard, coming to a mutual agreement that it no longer made sense to stay married.

We had not stopped loving one another. We faced the reality that we each had gone our separate ways and being together stopped each of us from truly living in happiness.

When we did something I loved then he was not really happy–just went along because it was, so to speak, my turn. The same held true when we did something that he loved to do.

No way did we share a definition of happiness!

I looked at the wonderful life I live now and realized I could never have done what I did or do now with the people I am with and the place where I live if I had stayed in that unhappy marriage.

Perhaps, even more importantly, I realized that staying in an unhappy situation revealed a lack of self love. Thank goodness I “woke up” and changed my whole way of being seven years ago.

Gratitude swept through me for all I am, all I get to do and all I have now. And I am also grateful for all that happened that got me here–incuding the ending of a 31 year marriage.

How grateful am I that I know I choose how I feel in any given moment? Words cannot describe the peace I know.

Laugh Out Loud

One of the best ways to boost your immune system and improve your overall welbeing is laughing out loud.

Watch this original Laughing Ladies video where I discovered the joy of breaking out of being all serious and being comfortable being goofy and joyous.

Happiness Formula

Is there a happiness formula? Is it different for each person? You would think that if such a formula existed then it must be unique to each individual.
The specifies of happiness does vary from person to person. In fact, over the course of a lifetime that definition varies. Yet the general method, necessary factors that compose it–stay constant.
1. Love yourself–first you must know who your True Self is
2. Decide to be happier–yes make a formal decision. Living in happiness is not something vague. You must decide  to act certain ways to get there.
3. Write down how your world looks, in ever aspect–physically, mentally, spiritually– once you live there. Otherwise how  will you know when you arrived?
4. Put out your request to the Universe then let it go. You do not need to knwo the how to, just the what you want.
5. Act on every synchronistic message you receive–be it people or events. Therea re no coincidences or accidents.
6.Monitor your moods. When you catch yurself feeling unhappy ( scared, frustrated, angry, sad, etc.) choose a happy memory and re-live it with the saem intensity you were rcreting the memory that cuased you to feel unhappy.
7. focus on what feels good. Avoid low frequency events and people like news adn most media.
8. Smile. Take care of yourself–eat well, sleep well, exercise, take time to be social and play.
9. Most important of all, people who live in happiness express gratitude for everything they have–every little and every big thing in their lives.
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