Psychotherapists assign formal labels to clients so that clients can file for insurance. What people do not know about that process hurts them on very many levels.
The insurance companies employ non-therapists to make decisions about how many visits and what kind of therapies to approve. Non-therapist money managers, hired to keep the insurance company not just in the black but profitable, make decisions that affect lives all day long, day after day.
Psychotherapists often find themselves assigning diagnostic labels that do not accurately fit clients because they know some diagnoses have a higher likelihood of getting more treatments okayed than do other diagnoses.
Do you know what happens when those labels get recorded in personal records?
The insurance company may sell their list and the information in those reports may go to companies that clear possible employees for a job.
If you already work some place and use your company insurance seeking talk therapy your employer will know about your personal life—the parts no one should know but you, right?
No wonder so many people seeking psychotherapy pay their own way. They protect themselves from making what should be private public!
Many people do not even know their records reflect diagnoses that label them – not as people but as sufferers of disorders like depression, bi-polar, or schizophrenic. Consequently when those clients move to a new therapist their label preceeds them.
Unfortunately many psychotherapists, overloaded with too heavy case loads, peruse the records of new patients – basically looking for the label that some other therapist assigned – making a value judgment that may or may not be accurate.
When I worked as a psychotherapist I wrote my reports as if the client was reading over my shoulder. People have a right to know how others view them – and judge them to be.
Better yet, people want to know their answers lie within themselves NOT outside in the mind of somebody else.
Psychotherapy, by avoiding the spiritual aspect of life, misses the basic causes of all issues.
While working as a psychotherapist I recall learning that forgiveness is something you do for yourself.
Obviously that fact is true.
I also learned that not forgiving someone is like eating poison and expecting the other person (the one you refuse to forgive) to die.
On a physiological level that statement rings true too.
What if forgiveness is less about letting go of the hurtful deed you felt at another’s hands and more about seeing the gift in the event?
What if forgiveness means for giving love to the one you think hurt you.
Most psychotherapists rightfully stride to separate religion from talk therapy. Yet you cannot disregard spirituality when working with a person. People are Divine Spirits living human experiences.
Unless you live in a cave in some remote high mountains you know everything and everyone, including us, is energy – spirits temporarily housed in human bodies. You also heard that we are all connected as One.
The left brain, housing your ego mind, stands guard to prevent your living in that truth lest it lose all the power it has over you.
When someone seems to do something hurtful to you realize they are gifting you the opportunity to grow and evolve your Spirit to a higher level. Give them love for what they did that forced you to take steps you would no have taken otherwise.
Send them love for being in your life.
On a spiritual level each and every person in your world agreed to come here in this lifetime to teach lessons to each other. When you look for the gift in every situation you will discover what you learned. Then you will truly feel love.
Forgiving means for giving love in every sense of the word.
That action does more than just free you. It reminds you of the Universal Laws that govern the world – whether or not you know about or believe them.
Why stay stuck in pain? Choose to reveal the lessons learned through pain and disappointment that move you forward in life.
People guess where to start when they ask a psychotherapist for help to heal wounds.
Psychotherapists have no way of knowing which topics that bother a client will clear the many faster and deeper. They seek to help clients talk about their problems.
The client chooses what he or she believes to be the most important issue bothering him or her at the time.
How do they make that choice?
The only way the average person knows how to choose what to talk about in therapy session is to ask the conscious mind where to start.
Two problems present themselves immediately with that approach.
• The problems lie outside of conscious awareness in the subconscious mind.
• The conscious ego mind makes choices with no clue that the files located in the subconscious mind are actually arranged in a hierarchy such that clearing root cause priorities automatically, easily and instantly clears issues falling below that priority.
A person can talk for weeks, months, even years about issues (I witnessed that truth as a psychotherapist observing colleagues with long-time clients) without resolving core issues or moving the client forward.
If clearing a priority allows the easy and automatic clearing of issues impacted by that cause then why don’t psychotherapists do that first?
Two reason stop psychotherapists from identifying and clearing root causes:
• They have no tools to access the priorities since they only know how to consult the conscious mind which will not give reliable answers
• They lack the know-how to completely eliminate the revealed cause instantly and permanently
Talk therapy will not uncover subconscious programming or reveal the history that set priorities. Specialized Kinesiology will.
Psychotherapists limit creative thinking by defining a set of thought patterns they call normal. People who think outside the box usually find themselves accused of being mentally unhealthy.
While working as a psychotherapist I chanced to witness a conversation between two colleagues. The woman shared that every time she needed new glasses when she went to the optometrist’s shop in the mall she found exactly the frames she wanted – on sale.
The male colleague told her to beware of magical thinking. The woman concurred that her thoughts might fall outside the realm defined as normal. She completely accepted the definition of the male without question.
In other words, she challenged her own belief system even though she consistently bought her new glasses on sale.
Since I worked extensively with clients labeled as chronically mentally ill I had the privilege of seeing how differently some people view and interpret the world than the majority of us. The problem, as I see it, is people who see differently get labeled as aberrant thinkers, people who have something wrong with them.
Who gets to be judge and jury on matters of mental health? Who says that some thinking processes are healthy while alternative thought processes are unhealthy?
What if the reason some people become dangers to themselves or to others has more to do with their non-acceptance of who they are and less to do with actual faulty wiring in their brains?
What if “crazy” people found life in the ho hum too boring or too hard to face and created their own alternative worlds to feel comfortable?
People do respond to thought patterns of those around them. They also respond to the huge thought forms that develop when millions of people share common beliefs.
That reality explains how dictators rise to power – they fulfill a need created by thought forms based on fear.
You control what you think. Your thoughts make your life happen the way you experience it.
Whose thoughts occupy your mind?
Some types of psychotherapy operate under the assumption that the therapist and client form a relationship that mimics how the client relates to all others in his or her real world.
Yet that theory makes no sense. The therapy situation does not represent an equal terms relationship. Instead the therapist sits in the seat of power while the client, consciously or unconsciously, yields to the “wisdom” of the therapist’s experiences.
No two people experience life the same way.
One hundred people watching an event interpret it one hundred ways and tell you one hundred different versions of what happened. Not a single accounting of the event reflects reality. Each person creates his or her own reality according to how he or she filters incoming stimuli.
In the therapy relationship the message sent by the therapist or client may not even resemble the message received by the other party. Result? The likelihood of misinterpretation and the resulting misinformation hamper progress.
Yet the therapist imagines the client interacts with others the same way he or she interacts in the session. Frankly, most people put on different faces depending upon who they find themselves with and what circumstances put them together.
Most people want the approval of others so they act in ways to accomplish that end.
Clients want therapists to fix them. Many therapists believe they know how to remedy what’s wrong in the lives of their clients. They follow through with what they believe to be healthy choices of action telling their clients, or at least suggesting, what steps to take.
Obedient, people-pleasing clients take direction for two reasons: they do not want to think for themselves OR they do not want to take responsibility for how their lives turn out knowing if they continue to be unhappy they can blame the therapist who told them how and what to do.
Therapists are people learning how to live their own lives. They cannot possibly know what is best for anybody else.