The degree to which you feel free to be yourself, even when acting silly, reveals your level of self confidence.
I used to think if I let go and acted very silly that people would judge me poorly. I thought they would see me as irresponsible or childish. More importantly, I thought looking goofy would damage my credibility.
So I never did anything that I thought caused me to look silly or anything less than serious. I mean never. Not when I was a baby. Not when I was a kid. And certainly not when I grew up!
Do your thoughts run the same way?
If you answered yes let me tell you the consequences of being a serious person all the time all of your life.
First of all it doesn’t feel so great. You do a lot less laughing out loud. Oh my goodness. I didn’t even laugh out loud until I had kids of m own and I laughed with them. No kidding!
Are you getting the idea of just how serious I used to be?
Notice I said “used to be.” The Universe brought people into my life that made me laugh. They live in joy. I watched how differently they experience life than I do.
One of those people is my daughter. She was funny from the age of one month and she just got funnier and funnier as she grew older. Now I am not saying she is comedian or she acts goofy all the time.
I am saying I envied her freedom simply to be herself all her life. What a joy it was raising her! I learned about being silly. I didn’t make my move to that domain while raising her but at least I saw that you can have fun without losing friends or the respect of others.
My life changed when I met my friend, Diane. Diane is a joy. Being around her leaves me smiling and feeling light. Hmm. Actually I mean Light. She is a bright Light that illuminates the world.
From Diane I learned that it is okay to let your little child out to play. In fact it s very healthy to let that child be part of who you are rather than hidden away.
I realized that I did not have enough self confidence to be me, no matter. I lacked the confidence to know that what other people think of me has nothing to do with me.
The only person’s whose opinion of me matters to me is me. As soon as I made that first video that message came through loud and clear!
Diane and I started making videos together. We did pretty goofy stuff. At first I was really scared. Can you even imagine being afraid to cut loose and act silly?
Well, I was. You know how most people fear the unknown? Well, I am somebody who jumps in and does it anyway. Yet it took me more than fifty years to jump in on this one! Mostly because the thought of doing so had not really occurred to me. I thought having fun in a goofy way was for other people but certainly not for me.
Well, Diane and I created a series of videos we call Laughing Ladies. I had so much fun after making the first one, and we got such a great response from friends and even from strangers, that we went on to make two more Laughing Ladies videos.
And me? I learned that being goofy and laugh out loud fun are great stress relievers! And no one thinks any less of me. In fact, people told me how much they appreciated the light videos – or do I mean Light.
I really “get” that self confidence has nothing to do with appearances or behaviors. And when yours is very high you truly can do anything you want to!
I am Ali Bierman. What do I DO and why do I do it? I teach you how to live in happiness now. Nothing in your life will work perfectly or permanently until you love yourself first. When you accomplish that end then you live in happiness.
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