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Happiness Is Living Life For Real (Not Virtual) To Feel Happy

If you want to feel happy see what you can do differently in your life. Here is one way to powerfully make a big change you don’t even now you want to make. It can make all the difference.

Most people I know lead very very full lives these days. I am still getting used to watching little kids walk around with their cell phones. And I only recently discovered what it is people do all day long on the Internet on sites like Facebook. Goodness. People play games all day long – online!

I wonder how may of those addicted players spend time with real people playing games in person. (Oh, I do not mean pretending to be someone else I mean board games or word games) Or how many people actually enjoy playing the real sports instead of the Wii games in their rec rooms.

It seems like life has become one big doing, one very busy very fast and very continual doing! You can do so many things with an iPhone—yikes! I fear if I got one I might not ever have time to just sit and be, or ponder – or share what I know with you!

If you haven’t figured out where I am going with this theme…I want to know when people started living their virtual lives rather than living in the real 3-D world. (Real, such as it we observe it through our five senses.)

Pause for a moment and think about how much time you spend online every day. Really. Stop and figure out how many hours of your life pass every day sitting at a computer interacting or passively observing what goes on.

I bet you have no clue.

Now determine how much time you spend interacting with those who are most important in your life – your partner, kids, parents, friends.

You see, you can never get back the time you already spent. And you can never create more than 24 hours in a day.

I have a recommendation for you. Take a pen and paper and go some place where you will not be distracted. Ready? You know if you don’t do this now you will not come back to it later so take the time now. (Okay, if you are at work then email it to your home email and do it later at home.)

Guestimate how much time you spend online doing the various activities you do: email, social networking, playing games, surfing for whatever, etc. Next, set that paper by your computer(s) and track every activity you do in the next 24 hours.

Yes, write down your actual time. Now no cheating here. No peeking at the clock and cutting down minutes.

Really, no one will know your results but you. This is a wake-up call. I will tell you why in a bit.

Also, in the next 24 ours, write down the actual minutes you interacted with the important people in your life in person or on the phone.

No judgments here, got it?

Just notice. After 24 hours you probably want to wait a few days and do the same routine again.

Make adjustments as you desire.

Why do I say this is your wake up call?  I knew someone who transitioned to the next plane not too long ago. (I know souls never die. hey simply transform.) She knew those were her final days and she said she was afraid to die…because there was so much more she wanted to do in life that she would never get done.

About the Author Ali

I am Ali Bierman. What do I DO and why do I do it? I teach you how to live in happiness now. Nothing in your life will work perfectly or permanently until you love yourself first. When you accomplish that end then you live in happiness.

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