With great trepidation I quietly maneuvered through my house. Phew! I discovered the frame on one of my framed photos fell apart allowing the glass to fall to the floor. Not so interesting, huh?
Ah, but what happened next…
In the course of finding a new frame for this magnificent photograph by my talented friend Keith Couch, I realized how critically the choice of frame and mat (or no mat) are to whether the picture looks fabulous or not really so great at all.
Yes. The mat and the frame matter in how attractive the picture appears to others.
Have you ever gone to a frame shop and spent a LONG time choosing first the mat (its style, shape and color) that complimented the photo or painting and then the frame that worked with both the piece of art and the mat?
Not so easy, is it?
This morning it occurred to me how much life is like framing a picture. You see, the way you feel before an event greatly influences how you view and experience that event.
Let me give you an example.
Many people complain that affirmations don’t work. Let’s look at a major factor that causes a consciously spoken affirmation to either work or not work.
The state of your mind, body and spirit, at the time you speak the affirmation, powerfully impacts whether or not you will manifest your desire. If you are in a great mood vibrating at a high frequency when you put out your request, then you will more easily attract the good you want which also vibrates in harmony with your high frequency.
On the other hand, if you are in a cruddy or even a ho hum mood and state your affirmation then you cannot possibly attract your desire. Remember, you only attract things vibrating in harmony with your own frequency.
Your vibration reflects how you feel more so than your exact thoughts do. It isn’t the words of your affirmation as much as the feeling you experience speaking them that makes the difference.
When you stop and pay attention, you can see how you actually frame everything going on in your daily life with your mood and perspective at the time you experience the meeting, the phone call, the email, the visit, the game, etc.
What if you set an intention for a wonderful or helpful outcome before you do anything? What if you put yourself in a great mood before tackling the dreaded task?
You cannot experience two different emotions simultaneously. You cannot feel both happy and sad in the same moment. Why would you choose sad or angry or frustrated or bad when you can choose to feel happy?
Put a happy frame around all you do before you do it and watch your world change instantly. Besides you get the immediate added bonus of feeling great!
My voice isn’t back yet I still made this video for someone you know who is stuck making excuses for not being successful in their relationship, their health, their work, their happiness or their finances.
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Living in happiness may be an art. Certainly it reflects a habitual way of living that keeps you thinking happy thoughts rather than unhappy thoughts.
What you think about causes you to feel a certain way. Sometimes the thought comes first and sometimes the feeling comes first – sort of.
To feel a certain way you decide to feel that way.
That conscious or unconscious choice seems to happen automatically. If that is true then your thoughts come first. On the other hand, if that idea is not accurate then your feelings come first.
Does it matter which comes first?
What matters is how you feel about you. What matters is whether or not you love you.
Actually, however you create your mood, you do so by habit.
What? Where did that come from?
You cannot give what you do not have, right? How can you love another person or thing until you love yourself first? You can’t.
Okay, then, how do you love yourself first? You decide to love yourself first. You choose to live in happiness. You just do it.
Think happy thoughts from your past. Yes there is a time and place to recall, use and feel your past memories.
Focus on the happy times of your life and the moments when you absolutely loved yourself first.
Feed those happy memories energy to keep them alive. Make them big pictures you easily see and feel – and hear, taste and touch. The more senses you involve in re-creating the happy picture the more real those experiences become.
See from inside your body looking out through your eyes rather than watching yourself on a movie screen.
Oh yes, the most important part of living in happiness right now – smile.
You cannot feel more than one emotion in any given moment. When you smile you cannot feel sad.
As you smile, retrieve those memories of when you were so very happy and tell yourself, “I am choosing to be happy now.” Repeat those words (in your mind or out loud) for at least ten seconds.
Create the habit of sitting up straight and walking with your head held high. Move at a brisk pace and lift your feet with every step. Breathe deeply and fully from your diaphragm to take in life in all its glory!
To live in happiness you do it.
Do not stop to think about how to do it. Just create a habit of doing the things I listed above. Pay attention to your breathing, your posture, your walk and your facial expressions all day long. Also pay attention to how you feel – happy or something else.
Create the happiness habit.
Look for something every day that leaves you feeling happy, at peace, or calm. Then share that experience either in writing or out loud.
Guess what happens when you share your happy thought.
Your subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between what is real and what you imagine. You physically and emotionally re-live that moment. Yes, your body produces all the same great feeling chemicals it originally did when the event happened.
Keep up the new behaviors and happy shares routine for 28 days and watch your life change to one of happiness that you won’t even have to think about. You will automatically do the behaviors and actions, and think the thoughts that keep you in happiness.
Yes, even when tough times come into your life, you will use those tools to get through. them.
Miracles happen for everyone. You just have to expect them to see them. And painful experiences also enter every life. The trick is melding the two with gratitude.
All my life I had to figure out everything myself and never ever let anyone know I needed help – or that I was scared. You get the picture, yes?
So when someone told me I could help lots of people by doing this and she had tears in her eyes, well, I want to help you or someone you know so I did it. The results, for me, were life changing. I hope the following does the same for you.
Search the internet for methods of goal setting and you will discover a plethora of tactics, many of which repeat the same old, “Write it down. Set a date to accomplish it” advice.
Did you ever set a goal? Did you write it down? Did you achieve it? By the date you had written? If not, how did you feel?
Did you ever realize a big dream that you never wrote down? Lots of times, right?
The truth is, it is not the fact that you write your goal down that motivates you to achieve it. Nor is the fact that you set a date to it that drives your success. Only one element ensures success in life.
When your goal has a Personal Meaning Quotient (PMQ) at 100 then you will move past any obstacle, no matter how big or threatening, to reach your desire.
I created the method for finding your PMQ to assist you in knowing where and when to invest your time and energy fulfilling your life’s desires. After all, something that consumes you with passion when you picture yourself living it keeps you “in the game” while desires that merely would be pleasing in your life get jettisoned when hitting a slight bump in the road to achieving them.
Firstly, take a look at whether or not the goal is yours or one your parents, boss, friends, or anyone else expects of you. You will never find the motivation to propel yourself through dense muck to fulfill a dream someone else places in your future.
Even if you say you want to earn enough money to send your kid to college, the ultimate underlying goal is feeling good about yourself and happy in your life. Starting in a state of happiness allows you the success that leaves you feeling confidant in your ability to take care of yourself and those you care about.
Now that you recognize your personal fulfillment aspect of your goal, you want to check out how your energy runs when you think about living that dream. Do you feel high and energized? Or do you feel ho hum and just okay?
I highly recommend using a muscle test or some other divination means to verify that your goal is at 100. Just because you want it to be and you say it is at 100 does not, by any means, reflect your subconscious state and programs within upon which you rely to achieve your dream.
Sure, you want o think the goal you set is what you truly want to realize in your life. However, deep inside your subconscious programming counters any possibility of actually making that goal real. You will fight yourself every step of the way until you give up.
You see, if you test for a PMQ of only 99 then you hold doubts, out of your awareness. those same unrecognized doubts may well send you packing when you stumble more than once on your journey to success.
Rest assured that a PMQ of 100 will lead you where, in your heart and in your mind, you really want to go.