Psychotherapy, by avoiding the spiritual aspect of life, misses the basic causes of all issues.
While working as a psychotherapist I recall learning that forgiveness is something you do for yourself.
Obviously that fact is true.
I also learned that not forgiving someone is like eating poison and expecting the other person (the one you refuse to forgive) to die.
On a physiological level that statement rings true too.
What if forgiveness is less about letting go of the hurtful deed you felt at another’s hands and more about seeing the gift in the event?
What if forgiveness means for giving love to the one you think hurt you.
Most psychotherapists rightfully stride to separate religion from talk therapy. Yet you cannot disregard spirituality when working with a person. People are Divine Spirits living human experiences.
Unless you live in a cave in some remote high mountains you know everything and everyone, including us, is energy – spirits temporarily housed in human bodies. You also heard that we are all connected as One.
The left brain, housing your ego mind, stands guard to prevent your living in that truth lest it lose all the power it has over you.
When someone seems to do something hurtful to you realize they are gifting you the opportunity to grow and evolve your Spirit to a higher level. Give them love for what they did that forced you to take steps you would no have taken otherwise.
Send them love for being in your life.
On a spiritual level each and every person in your world agreed to come here in this lifetime to teach lessons to each other. When you look for the gift in every situation you will discover what you learned. Then you will truly feel love.
Forgiving means for giving love in every sense of the word.
That action does more than just free you. It reminds you of the Universal Laws that govern the world – whether or not you know about or believe them.
Why stay stuck in pain? Choose to reveal the lessons learned through pain and disappointment that move you forward in life.
Revealed: the one thing you can easily do that changes everything for every person, every creature and the planet itself.
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People guess where to start when they ask a psychotherapist for help to heal wounds.
Psychotherapists have no way of knowing which topics that bother a client will clear the many faster and deeper. They seek to help clients talk about their problems.
The client chooses what he or she believes to be the most important issue bothering him or her at the time.
How do they make that choice?
The only way the average person knows how to choose what to talk about in therapy session is to ask the conscious mind where to start.
Two problems present themselves immediately with that approach.
• The problems lie outside of conscious awareness in the subconscious mind.
• The conscious ego mind makes choices with no clue that the files located in the subconscious mind are actually arranged in a hierarchy such that clearing root cause priorities automatically, easily and instantly clears issues falling below that priority.
A person can talk for weeks, months, even years about issues (I witnessed that truth as a psychotherapist observing colleagues with long-time clients) without resolving core issues or moving the client forward.
If clearing a priority allows the easy and automatic clearing of issues impacted by that cause then why don’t psychotherapists do that first?
Two reason stop psychotherapists from identifying and clearing root causes:
• They have no tools to access the priorities since they only know how to consult the conscious mind which will not give reliable answers
• They lack the know-how to completely eliminate the revealed cause instantly and permanently
Talk therapy will not uncover subconscious programming or reveal the history that set priorities. Specialized Kinesiology will.
Psychotherapists limit creative thinking by defining a set of thought patterns they call normal. People who think outside the box usually find themselves accused of being mentally unhealthy.
While working as a psychotherapist I chanced to witness a conversation between two colleagues. The woman shared that every time she needed new glasses when she went to the optometrist’s shop in the mall she found exactly the frames she wanted – on sale.
The male colleague told her to beware of magical thinking. The woman concurred that her thoughts might fall outside the realm defined as normal. She completely accepted the definition of the male without question.
In other words, she challenged her own belief system even though she consistently bought her new glasses on sale.
Since I worked extensively with clients labeled as chronically mentally ill I had the privilege of seeing how differently some people view and interpret the world than the majority of us. The problem, as I see it, is people who see differently get labeled as aberrant thinkers, people who have something wrong with them.
Who gets to be judge and jury on matters of mental health? Who says that some thinking processes are healthy while alternative thought processes are unhealthy?
What if the reason some people become dangers to themselves or to others has more to do with their non-acceptance of who they are and less to do with actual faulty wiring in their brains?
What if “crazy” people found life in the ho hum too boring or too hard to face and created their own alternative worlds to feel comfortable?
People do respond to thought patterns of those around them. They also respond to the huge thought forms that develop when millions of people share common beliefs.
That reality explains how dictators rise to power – they fulfill a need created by thought forms based on fear.
You control what you think. Your thoughts make your life happen the way you experience it.
Whose thoughts occupy your mind?
Happiness eludes most people because they spend the majority of their waking hours thinking about what they don’t want. You can replace that self-defeating habit by living consciously.
Most people know exactly what they don’t want in life better than they know what they do want.
You always and only get what you think about most of the day.
I hear you saying that you state your affirmations and look at your vision boards every morning and every night.
Twice daily, for a few moments each time, you focus on and ask for what you want.
But what do you think about the rest of the day?
Do you feel happy, sad or indifferent the rest of the day and night?
IF you are like most people you spend minimal time with your affirmations then spend the rest of the time thinking about what you fear.
For example, a health fanatic spends hours thinking about what he or she eats and doing the right exercises. He or she eats organic food, pays attention to the assortment of meals and snacks and how much food gets eaten raw vs. cooked.
That person may be addicted to working out on a regular schedule performing carefully chosen routines.
The thing is, that person makes all those seemingly good and healthy choices to avoid getting sick, out of shape, weak or fat. Maybe that person thinks he or she will not be popular or successful unless he or she looks a certain way.
His or her thought process focuses on not getting sick or fat rather than focusing on gaining and maintaining health. He or she focuses on fear.
What you focus on expands in your life.
Over time the health fanatic moves toward being unhealthy without understanding how such a possibility can even exist for him or her.
Remember the quote, “What you fear shall come upon you.”