Revealed: the one thing you can easily do that changes everything for every person, every creature and the planet itself.
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People guess where to start when they ask a psychotherapist for help to heal wounds.
Psychotherapists have no way of knowing which topics that bother a client will clear the many faster and deeper. They seek to help clients talk about their problems.
The client chooses what he or she believes to be the most important issue bothering him or her at the time.
How do they make that choice?
The only way the average person knows how to choose what to talk about in therapy session is to ask the conscious mind where to start.
Two problems present themselves immediately with that approach.
• The problems lie outside of conscious awareness in the subconscious mind.
• The conscious ego mind makes choices with no clue that the files located in the subconscious mind are actually arranged in a hierarchy such that clearing root cause priorities automatically, easily and instantly clears issues falling below that priority.
A person can talk for weeks, months, even years about issues (I witnessed that truth as a psychotherapist observing colleagues with long-time clients) without resolving core issues or moving the client forward.
If clearing a priority allows the easy and automatic clearing of issues impacted by that cause then why don’t psychotherapists do that first?
Two reason stop psychotherapists from identifying and clearing root causes:
• They have no tools to access the priorities since they only know how to consult the conscious mind which will not give reliable answers
• They lack the know-how to completely eliminate the revealed cause instantly and permanently
Talk therapy will not uncover subconscious programming or reveal the history that set priorities. Specialized Kinesiology will.
Psychotherapists limit creative thinking by defining a set of thought patterns they call normal. People who think outside the box usually find themselves accused of being mentally unhealthy.
While working as a psychotherapist I chanced to witness a conversation between two colleagues. The woman shared that every time she needed new glasses when she went to the optometrist’s shop in the mall she found exactly the frames she wanted – on sale.
The male colleague told her to beware of magical thinking. The woman concurred that her thoughts might fall outside the realm defined as normal. She completely accepted the definition of the male without question.
In other words, she challenged her own belief system even though she consistently bought her new glasses on sale.
Since I worked extensively with clients labeled as chronically mentally ill I had the privilege of seeing how differently some people view and interpret the world than the majority of us. The problem, as I see it, is people who see differently get labeled as aberrant thinkers, people who have something wrong with them.
Who gets to be judge and jury on matters of mental health? Who says that some thinking processes are healthy while alternative thought processes are unhealthy?
What if the reason some people become dangers to themselves or to others has more to do with their non-acceptance of who they are and less to do with actual faulty wiring in their brains?
What if “crazy” people found life in the ho hum too boring or too hard to face and created their own alternative worlds to feel comfortable?
People do respond to thought patterns of those around them. They also respond to the huge thought forms that develop when millions of people share common beliefs.
That reality explains how dictators rise to power – they fulfill a need created by thought forms based on fear.
You control what you think. Your thoughts make your life happen the way you experience it.
Whose thoughts occupy your mind?
Happiness eludes most people because they spend the majority of their waking hours thinking about what they don’t want. You can replace that self-defeating habit by living consciously.
Most people know exactly what they don’t want in life better than they know what they do want.
You always and only get what you think about most of the day.
I hear you saying that you state your affirmations and look at your vision boards every morning and every night.
Twice daily, for a few moments each time, you focus on and ask for what you want.
But what do you think about the rest of the day?
Do you feel happy, sad or indifferent the rest of the day and night?
IF you are like most people you spend minimal time with your affirmations then spend the rest of the time thinking about what you fear.
For example, a health fanatic spends hours thinking about what he or she eats and doing the right exercises. He or she eats organic food, pays attention to the assortment of meals and snacks and how much food gets eaten raw vs. cooked.
That person may be addicted to working out on a regular schedule performing carefully chosen routines.
The thing is, that person makes all those seemingly good and healthy choices to avoid getting sick, out of shape, weak or fat. Maybe that person thinks he or she will not be popular or successful unless he or she looks a certain way.
His or her thought process focuses on not getting sick or fat rather than focusing on gaining and maintaining health. He or she focuses on fear.
What you focus on expands in your life.
Over time the health fanatic moves toward being unhealthy without understanding how such a possibility can even exist for him or her.
Remember the quote, “What you fear shall come upon you.”
Some types of psychotherapy operate under the assumption that the therapist and client form a relationship that mimics how the client relates to all others in his or her real world.
Yet that theory makes no sense. The therapy situation does not represent an equal terms relationship. Instead the therapist sits in the seat of power while the client, consciously or unconsciously, yields to the “wisdom” of the therapist’s experiences.
No two people experience life the same way.
One hundred people watching an event interpret it one hundred ways and tell you one hundred different versions of what happened. Not a single accounting of the event reflects reality. Each person creates his or her own reality according to how he or she filters incoming stimuli.
In the therapy relationship the message sent by the therapist or client may not even resemble the message received by the other party. Result? The likelihood of misinterpretation and the resulting misinformation hamper progress.
Yet the therapist imagines the client interacts with others the same way he or she interacts in the session. Frankly, most people put on different faces depending upon who they find themselves with and what circumstances put them together.
Most people want the approval of others so they act in ways to accomplish that end.
Clients want therapists to fix them. Many therapists believe they know how to remedy what’s wrong in the lives of their clients. They follow through with what they believe to be healthy choices of action telling their clients, or at least suggesting, what steps to take.
Obedient, people-pleasing clients take direction for two reasons: they do not want to think for themselves OR they do not want to take responsibility for how their lives turn out knowing if they continue to be unhappy they can blame the therapist who told them how and what to do.
Therapists are people learning how to live their own lives. They cannot possibly know what is best for anybody else.