Do you know anyone who lives from one crisis to the next? The way they live each day earns them the label Drama Queen or Drama King.
If you or anyone you know fits that description follow these five steps to stop that habit now.
1. Recognize that you are, in fact, addicted to emotions. What does that mean? You need drama in your life. Your days cannot run smoothly. Some crisis must arise to get you hyped up.
As with any addiction, the longer you live with it, the more intense and the bigger the problems become to feed your craving.
2. Decide you want to change your life and eliminate the addiction to anger, to sadness, to illness, to being a victim – whatever disempowering behavior you cultivated into your habitual way of being.
3. Make yourself aware of all the benefits you now reap by staying stuck in your emotions as your driving force in life. Willingly release all attachment to those perks.
4. Decide you are ready to change. That means you want to live differently right now—and nothing, absolutely nothing – will stop you. You will go around, under, over or through any obstacle that blocks your pathway to change.
5. Choose the new habit you want to create, the new behavior you want to live that replaces the emotional addiction. Then spend 28 days building that new habit by creating a new folder in your subconscious mind and filling it with evidence of your new behavior.
Replacing an old bad habit with a healthy new habit is not as hard as you think. However it requires consistency and diligence to keep your mind focused on the behavior you want to create instead of the one you want to eliminate.
People usually assume their depressed feelings are their own. They never stop to notice or ask if those feelings belong to them or to those in their environment.
Of course we don’t’ ask if what we feel belongs to us or to someone else. We were not raised in a paradigm letting us know the possibility exists that we take on the feelings of others and allow them to impact our lives – sometimes very severely.
People begin that habit in childhood. In talking with people who call themselves depressed I found that many were the caretakers in their families – starting at a very young age.
What do I mean they were the caretakers?
As young children they heard the anger and hurt and tried to rectify the situation. As kids they took on the job of making it all better for all the adults and other siblings in the household.
When they started school that habit carried forth into arenas beyond their family. When anyone they knew, close friend or not, got hurt or had a problem they knew about, as young kids these people felt the other person’s hurt – emotionally and sometimes physically.
That was not a voluntary intention on their part. People seem to be born that way. Actually that is a gift called being an empath. Only it will not operate in your life as a gift unless you know you have that ability AND you realize what you feel may very well not be your emotions or pains at all!
Very many people prefer to ignore their feelings. They do want to experience them so they don’t. They go through life attracting people who will do their feeling for them.
That scenario is all too common for, but not exclusive to, women. Obviously not all women do this but many do marry men or get into relationships with men who do not acknowledge any emotions either in themselves or in others.
Those men deny dramatic events in their lives and use, what they describe as logic (If you ever stop and pay attention to most of their “logical” explanations you will find them to be anything but logical.) to pretend the events have no meaning for them and do not matter or the problems will work themselves out if you ignore them long enough.
Empaths tend to live lives of suffering calling themselves depressed and maybe even sickly. Only when they discover those feelings and symptoms do not belong to them will they be able to release what is not theirs and learn how to use their gift to help others without harming themselves.