Fun and joy both feel good, yet they are two different concepts that you experience in life.
Yes, even you. Even depressed traumatized people experience some joy and fun, even if only for brief moments, at some point in their lives.
Joy and fun serve two distinct purposes across your life. They differ in these 5 ways:
1. Fun is something you experience while taking some action. You may be reading or physically active. You have fun doing something.
Joy is more passive than active. You feel joy when thoughts (good feeling interpretations of events) cross your mind.
2. Fun births laughter. In fact when you have loads of fun you may find yourself laughing out loud or even rolling on the floor. Tears may run down your cheeks.
When you have fun you usually make noise. Think of people riding roller coasters and all their squeals.
Joy is more of an inner experience, a silent knowing of peace. You tend to experience joy as feeling content.
3. Fun is usually (but not always) a shared experience. You have fun with a friend or even with strangers. You probably are not alone when you do the things you describe as fun activities for you.
In fact part of the fun is seeing the experience through the eyes of the other people present.
You feel joy inside. No one else needs to be present. Joy is completely an inside job unique to each individual. Someone else’s joy may or may not be evident to you. And you will not miss your own experience of joy.
4. Fun is momentary. You do something that is fun. And then you are done doing the fun activity. Sure the memories may endure a long time (even forever) but the event ends.
Joy feels like a sense of accomplishment. It is not a goal but a place where you arrive emotionally or perhaps spiritually. Joy lingers in your body, mind and spirit.
5. Fun is easy to describe. You share the details of the activity ad others understand what you did. They may or may not agree that activity would be fun for them. Doesn’t matter. It was fun for you.
Joy is more abstract and intangible. Others may observe your face and body language yet describing how you feel, defining your joy – that is not easy. Maybe it is not even possible.
Fun is a key ingredient to happiness. You can be happy without fun AND you can take your happiness to a whole new level when you add fun to your life.
You can be happy without having fun. But why would you do that? You’d be missing out on the joy and freedom that comes with fun and recreation!
People talk about balance. Okay, you want a balance that includes your work, your recreation, your important people and all your significant relationships. And you want to take care of your well being and health too.
Health? What does that have to with fun and happiness?
Happy people are healthier than people who fail to live in happiness. When you smile, and especially when you laugh out loud, you release what Dr. Candace Pert calls neuropeptides. Essentially, neuropeptides are released by your emotions. Good feelings release good chemicals that run through your system making you feel good and actually boost your immunity and health!
Pretty darn neat, don’t you think? When you do things that leave you feeling great you improve your health! You improve your physical and emotional health!
What do you do in your life that allows you to cut loose and just have fun? What activity brings you joy and laughter? I am not just talking about inner comfort. I mean outrageous goofy behaviors that leave you laughing inside and out!
Norman Cousin’s’ story about how he healed himself from a fatal illness by watching funny videos is not a myth. It is real. And it is real science too.
Here is the thing about fun – many people are afraid to look goofy. Most people refuse to look ridiculous – as if behaving in a silly manner changes who you are or what you have accomplished in your life!
I know all about those feelings. I thought if ever did anything that made me look foolish I would lose all my credibility and the respect of others who know me and those who do not know me!
I discovered nothing could be further from the truth.
Last year I felt the fear and did it anyway – a friend and I started making what we call Laughing Ladies Videos. Talk about looking completely foolish!
The amazing result was my little girl came out to play. ! Holy crow! My little child never played in my life – not that way! Goodness gracious I had so much fun after that first video we went on to make two more.
And, as far as I can tell, I didn’t lose a single friend or client. In fact everyone who responded to our videos said they were rolling on the floor with laughter and thanked us for the break in their ho hum day.
I guarantee you will survive looking foolish and in the process have more fun than you can evener imagine! Do something ludicrous for the joy of it
What if I tell you there are just three people that create the description of two mothers and two daughters? Got the answer now?
There are three generations: grandmother, daughter and grand-daughter.
I thought I would offer you something other than a thought-provoking article today. Here is a brain teaser to get a different part of your brain working.
Two mothers and two daughters go shopping.They have $21 which they split equally amongst themselves. How can that be – given that no change and only whole dollar bills are used?.
The solution appears in the next post, Brain Teaser 2. Do not peek. Give yourself the satisfaction of figuring out this one all by yourself. You can do it. You can figure this one out when you focus 100% on this dilemma.
You will find Brain Teaser 2 above this post.
Everyone knows that yawns are contagious. Did you know that smiles are too? If you smile at someone chances are pretty good they will smile back at you. And if one of you starts laughing – well watch out for the ensuing fun.
Laugh out loud to liven your day and cheer up everyone in ear shot.
Smiles and laughter – catch both today and spread the cheer.