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Three Favorite Mistakes of Happiness Seekers

If you are like most people you want to enjoy your life and live in happiness every day. Yet you take actions that prevent you from reaching that goal.

Mistake #1 – Neglecting Responsibility – I see it all the time – people take actions that lead to undesired results. Rather than assume responsibility for the choice they made they look for someone else to blame for giving them bad advice or making a faulty product, etc.

Solution: Live in the truth that you create your own reality by the thoughts you think that lead to the emotions you experience. Those emotions cause you to take, or not take, certain actions that produce a particular result. Notice the process all began with the thoughts you think – not your boss, not your partner, not your kids or your parents, not your neighbor or anybody else.

Mistake #2 – Believing That Positive Thinking Makes You Happy – thinking Pollyanna thoughts when you feel differently inside will never make you happy.  The clown who wears a happy face mask yet grimaces behind it is not happy. You cannot fool your subconscious mind with positive words.

Solution: Accurate thinking will transform bad feelings into happy ones. Events just happen. They have no positive or negative value except the one you assign. When you remember and live in that truth then you get to interpret events in a way that empowers you and raises your frequency of vibration. Happy people live at high frequencies while unhappy people live at low frequencies.

Everything you want in life, all the good stuff, exists at higher frequencies. You can only access the good you seek when you vibrate in harmony with those higher frequencies.

Mistake #3 – Holding On To Old Hurts – thinking you hurt the person who you believe caused you pain or embarrassment by continuing to feel angry. To do so you must keep past memories alive by taking energy away from your present day to feed the hurt. Your body needs al its energy to make it through today and keep you healthy. You sacrifice your health and well being when you feed the past and short-change your present. Holding a grudge slowly kills you.

Solution: Let go of old hurts. After all, if you still feel angry with Bob for some behavior he did last week or thirty years ago does Bob even have an inking you are angry? Do you hurt Bob in any way? No. However you hurt your own health and well being. You also put out energy that pushes people away.

Focus on today and what you are doing in this moment. Frankly, this moment is the only moment you ever truly live in.  You can only take action now.

When you let the past go and focus on the present you will notice a surge in your energy and a feeling of lightness.  Both sensations will cause you to break out in a smile.

The Three Most Common Happiness Killing Mistakes

If you are like most people you want to enjoy your life and live in happiness every day. Yet you perform the same behaviors, day after day, that prevent you from ever reaching happiness on a permanent basis.

Correcting the following habitual mistakes can move you into the place of their dreams.

Mistake #1 – Looking For What Is Wrong And What Is Missing
You will find whatever you look for. I guarantee that truth. When you follow your usual habit of looking for the bad you will surely find it.

Solution: Look for the good in the situation. You will find it only when you know it exists. Remember The Law of Polarity states that if something is a little bit good then it must also be a little bit bad. And if it is a lot bad then it must simultaneously be a lot good. You get to choose which side you see.

Mistake #2 – Failing To Look For Other Possible Reason To Explain What Upset You – I know it sounds silly, but many people jump to the inclusion that whatever happened was meant to hurt them. For instance, if someone is late to lunch they get angry rather than think some emergency came up that not only took that person away from their schedule but also did not allow them time to call.

Solution: Before you get angry and feel hurt stop to think of alternative possibilities that could have led to the current situation. Most people are courteous and kind. Very few people intentionally act in way that hurts others.
Remember that anger covers what you really feel. Take a moment to determine your underlying emotion. Take a few deep breaths to clear your head. Then figure out other possible scenarios that do not include someone or something hurting you.

Mistake #3 – Focusing On The Problem Instead Of On The Solution – Very similar to the previous point, if you only pay attention to the problem, trying to figure out how it happened and who is to blame, you cannot possibly see the solutions.

Solution: Realize that every problem comes with many solutions. When your head focuses on solutions they will appear seemingly like magic. The Universe never presents any problem without simultaneously presenting one or more solutions. Learn how to look for and recognize the answers.