Living in happiness may be an art. Certainly it reflects a habitual way of living that keeps you thinking happy thoughts rather than unhappy thoughts.
What you think about causes you to feel a certain way. Sometimes the thought comes first and sometimes the feeling comes first – sort of.
To feel a certain way you decide to feel that way.
That conscious or unconscious choice seems to happen automatically. If that is true then your thoughts come first. On the other hand, if that idea is not accurate then your feelings come first.
Does it matter which comes first?
What matters is how you feel about you. What matters is whether or not you love you.
Actually, however you create your mood, you do so by habit.
What? Where did that come from?
You cannot give what you do not have, right? How can you love another person or thing until you love yourself first? You can’t.
Okay, then, how do you love yourself first? You decide to love yourself first. You choose to live in happiness. You just do it.
Think happy thoughts from your past. Yes there is a time and place to recall, use and feel your past memories.
Focus on the happy times of your life and the moments when you absolutely loved yourself first.
Feed those happy memories energy to keep them alive. Make them big pictures you easily see and feel – and hear, taste and touch. The more senses you involve in re-creating the happy picture the more real those experiences become.
See from inside your body looking out through your eyes rather than watching yourself on a movie screen.
Oh yes, the most important part of living in happiness right now – smile.
You cannot feel more than one emotion in any given moment. When you smile you cannot feel sad.
As you smile, retrieve those memories of when you were so very happy and tell yourself, “I am choosing to be happy now.” Repeat those words (in your mind or out loud) for at least ten seconds.
Create the habit of sitting up straight and walking with your head held high. Move at a brisk pace and lift your feet with every step. Breathe deeply and fully from your diaphragm to take in life in all its glory!
To live in happiness you do it.
Do not stop to think about how to do it. Just create a habit of doing the things I listed above. Pay attention to your breathing, your posture, your walk and your facial expressions all day long. Also pay attention to how you feel – happy or something else.
Create the happiness habit.
Look for something every day that leaves you feeling happy, at peace, or calm. Then share that experience either in writing or out loud.
Guess what happens when you share your happy thought.
Your subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between what is real and what you imagine. You physically and emotionally re-live that moment. Yes, your body produces all the same great feeling chemicals it originally did when the event happened.
Keep up the new behaviors and happy shares routine for 28 days and watch your life change to one of happiness that you won’t even have to think about. You will automatically do the behaviors and actions, and think the thoughts that keep you in happiness.
Yes, even when tough times come into your life, you will use those tools to get through. them.
I wish you a belated Happy and Healthy New Year.I just came back online following vocal chord surgery. While I am not yet ready to make a video I am definitely here for you to assist you on your path to a happier, healthier and more fulfilling life.
In the interest of better serving your needs (which I only know when you share them with me) I study lots of material and research on the brain and mind as well as metaphysics and quantum physics.
The cool thing I find is that science has been discovering what I already found out for myself, namely, that being happy first and loving yourself first lead to better health, more meaningful relationships, and overall more success at everything in life.
Most people got it all backwards. Most people think they have to have a great career to be happy. Or they think the “right” person will love them and make them happy. Ot they believe that gaining health will bring success and happiness.
Nope. Now you know why happiness eludes you. No one and nothing outside of you can make you happy. Period. And no one and nothing outside of you makes you sad or angry either. Now that one we need to talk about, okay?
So what are you going to do about your unhappy situation?
While I have not been able to talk I have been searching the internet for a way to do our bi-weekly live session on topics you tell me you want to know about. And guess what. I am so excited! I found a way to do a live streaming video that you can access completely free and interact live with me.
You will get your questions answered right there and then without relying on a telephone. Plus I will be able to record the session for review later – as many times as you like.
While my voice comes back I will set up and start practicing using the new communication system to master the learning curve. I intend to begin the bi-weekly gatherings this month.
What do you need to do besides keep an eye out for the debut of the new bi-monthly streaming gathering? TELL ME what you want to know. What is going on that keeps you from being happy? What keeps you awake at night?
I willl not tell anyone where the questions come from so you remain anonymous.
So you know, you are not alone. I get very similar very unhappy life situation help requests from women who think they are alone in their suffering. Please know, you are never alone and never need to suffer through life.
If your life up ’til now has been painful, KNOW that your past in NO WAY predicts your future. I will not give up on you so don’t you give up on you.
I don’t care if your struggle is with a life time of abuse or fruitless attempts to get a better figure or a more organized house. If it bothers you, let’s do something about it! Nothing will ever change because you wish or hope it will. And it will not go away by itself.
LIfe is a do it yourself job. I cannot make any changes for you. AND life is not a do it by yourself job.
Do one thing different today even if it is something as simple as putting your other foot down first when getting out of bed or starting to brush your teeth at a different point in your mouth.
Begin the habit of change NOW. Let your subconscious mind and the Universe know you are done with being unhappy and ready to change your life by acting now.
This post delivers a a very personal message yet I feel certain it applies to very many people, maybe even to you.
Something has been really bothering me the past few months and I was afraid to tell you wbout it.
This short video will fill you in. Please watch it through ito the end as I really do need your help this week.
I appreciate your sharing and liking this post so others will stop the fear–which is always one’s imagination – and ask for the help they need.
Amy Cuddy’s expertise lies in teaching people how to affect change, not starting within, as most people teach, but starting by acting as if and becoming who you create yourself to be–in two minute pops!
Click SHARE to and LIkE to let everyone you know get happier. After all, when you are happy and they are happy too, how much more wonderful can your life become?
You can feel happy right now. More importantly, you can create the happiness habit. then you will not even have to think about how to be happy. You will be happy and do things that make you happy all on automatic.