The more you think and therefore feel joy in your life, the easier it becomes to stay in those thoughts and produce that kind of energy. Your emotions and muscles wire together. In fact, neural networks form “tying” together joyful feelings with joyful thoughts. Your physical body will also assume certain postures that get wired into those Joy Networks.
Every time you think, feel or perform an action that triggers part of that network, guess what-the entire Joy Network kicks into action! Soon (for most people that period is about 28 days) joyful thinking replaces your old habits that left you feeling crummy at worst and ho hum at best.
Twenty-eight days. Hmm. is your well being worth making a concentrated effort for twenty-eight days? You see, you will not have to wait twenty-eight days for your world to look different or for good things to happen regularly. In fact, that shift will happen the very first day you apply attention to how you feel and shift into joy whenever you slip away from it.
Whatever you focus on expands. To feel joy think thoughts that let you feel joyful. Simple, yes? Ah, here comes the challenge-you cannot think joyous thoughts now and then during the day. You must think joyous thoughts most of the day to live in a joyful state.
You want to continue this new behavior until you establish the habit of feeling joyful. Yes, living in joy is a habit you can create. What is so good about habits? You do them without thinking. They become automatic–operating out of your awareness.
Think about learning to drive a car. You had to learn how to start the car, shift gears, use the brake and accelerator, etc. You focused your mind continually, monitoring every aspect of making that car move and stop safely. You paid attention at 100%–no cell phone conversation, etc.
In time your driving became automatic. Now you just get in, start the motor and off you go. You can talk with others (cell phones still pose safety questions for drivers) and eat and still drive safely, right?
The same holds true for creating a new behavior. First you repeat it over and over until it becomes a habit.
This friend finds something to celebrate where I would not have seen it on my won. She is more than happy. She is excitedly happy in a feel good calm way.
Wow! How do I explain that one? My friend explained it to me so I could do it too and now I am sharing her secret with you. She told me to “feel into it.” That is it. The whole secret to living in joy—feel into it.
She taught me to stop thinking with my head and to think with my heart instead.
Think with my heart? Now that is a whole new way of being—and it feels really fine.
Take yourself out of your old way of thinking and see if this one fits for you. When you look at what you need to do and figure out today, turn off that thinning left brain analyzer? Tune into your right brain emotional center and feel into whatever the situation is. Just do it and you will understand what words cannot truly express.
I wish you joy in every new adventure—starting now.
I recently discovered the difference between being happy and being joyful. How did I do that after living 58 years on this planet? The simple answer is I never new anyone who was joyful before now.
When teaching people to love others you must first love yourself because you cannot give what you do not have. And cannot do what you do not know. I am not talking about knowing about something, You can know about anything by reading books or doing online searches or finding a video on YouTube to explain about pretty much anything.
But you cannot possibly live something until you know it–until you feel it, live it and breathe it. Consequently, since I never really knew there was such a thing as living in joy, I was unable to even know about joyous living—before now.
I made a new friend one year ago. At first I thought she was very different—until I realized I envied how free she felt all the time. No matter where we went, I noticed my friend was completely free to be herself.
I am not saying she was ever inappropriate, loud, obnoxious or rude. I am saying she shares what she feels and thinks—and always does so in a respectful way. Even through all her proper decorum she stands out from everybody else in the room for who she is— pure joy.
I thought living in happiness was great. Then I discovered fun and joy and laughing out loud. Find out more in this video. Leave a comment and tell me what you do for fun to really get yourself laughing out loud!