When Krystalya Marie interviewed me on A2Zen.fm, we explored how the mind-body-spirit connection shows up in peoples’ lives AND how my work clears the resulting suffering, I shared the fact that I had recently discovered the true meaning of Loving Yourself.
My words came in response to a caller who sounded terribly down on herself. She said she must not love herself because she couldn’t attract good happy things, only feel bad things into her life. And the intensity of her struggle continued to escalate.
I told her I had been grappling with exactly the same issue until a revelation happened during my meditations. I get ALL my solutions during meditations. I HIGHLY recommend daily meditation of some form that works for you. Contact me for guidance in finding your own way to meditate.
What came to me, that was then confirmed two days later, is the fact that until you love yourself enough the Universe cannot make you privy to the mess hidden out of your awareness that causes your suffering.
In other words, when you have so much love for yourself that you can make it through heavy duty momentary pain then you can free yourself forever.
What the heck am I talking about?
The Universe never presents you with a situation without also presenting possible solutions AND you also need to be in a place where you will allow those solutions into your awareness.
I had noticed the exact pattern working with clients for 15 years. Some people’s issues came with great details revealed by their spirits during our work. I never asked them to recall memories because the whole point is the deepest pain lodges out of your awareness where it remains inaccessible to the conscious mind.
I also noticed that some clients spirits gushed forth with minute detail all across their life time. Yet other clients only flitted through those moments so I could catch them and enter them into the circuits I worked on yet we never knew the details of what happened when.
In both cases, the clients cleared the suffering for the specific issue on which we worked each circuit. Yet those who got to know the causes were the ones ready to handle AND DISMISS the emotional attachment to those issues.
The others knew the ideas and emotions of the root causes but did not experience the same opportunity to know what they cleared. That outcome left them vulnerable to repeating the patterns. Working together we disclosed the emotional pattern just not HOW the pattern showed up for them in real life instances.
When you love yourself the Universe throws stuff at you because It knows you are ready to heal as soon as you “get” the message the Universe has a major life lesson for you. When you fail to hear the message delivered in whispers it gets louder and louder and more in your face until you find yourself in crisis.
So there I was feeling upset with myself for not walking my talk by loving myself first – the main theme of my work in happiness. All the while I have been loving myself so much that the Universe has been, in essence, yelling at me letting me know exactly what I need to heal and to do so once and for all – so I can stop attracting more and more physically painful intensely serious circumstances to my world.
Loving yourself first is not selfish It’s mandatory. No one will ever look out for #1 the way only you can.
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Love yourself first. It’s not selfish. It’s mandatory.
When you take care of you first you can be fully there for others. Your life and theirs will be much richer. Share your experience in a comment below. Tell us what happened when you switched from always doing for others to metting your own needs first and also doing for others.
Loving yourself first is not selfish. It is mandatory. You cannot give what you do not have. Without self love you lack self respect and self-honoring. Again, what you do not feel for yourself cannot be given to others – including honoring or respect.
When you love yourself first you will only allow others to treat you with honor and respect at all times. Knowing, very clearly, which behaviors you will accept and which do not fit into your life style allows you to choose only relationships that fulfill your desires.
I am talking about both personal and professional behaviors. Remember that how you do anything is how you do everything.
Feeding your need to love yourself causes you to feel endless love for everyone and everything in the world. Love pours from your every pore with no conscious effort on our part.
You become one with love – and one with God, Creator, the Universe, whatever term you prefer. After all, God is pure love energy.
Remember that you teach others how to treat you by example – you model acceptable behaviors toward you. When you take time to eat well, get rest and also recreation you show others they must feed you well, let you get your sleep and allow you to just plain have fun – as opposed to taking care of them all the time while ignoring you and your own needs. (Know anyone like that?)
You will only live in happiness when your Self love raises your vibrational frequency so high that you attract all and only people and circumstances that feel good.
Feeling good clues you in to the fact that you live in the present moment. All of your energy, taken to support you in the present moment, empowers you to stay healthy which in turn supports optimal functioning of the Life Force that is you.
Life only happens right now…and now…and now. If you recall past memories you steal energy from your present moment, energy that your physical and emotional bodies need to get you through the day. Same holds true if you find yourself “living” in the future.
You need your energy now. You want to stay focused on now.
If your body or emotions come up short on energy right now they go into your organs to pull what they need. Then if you fail to get adequate sleep to replace all that borrowed energy your health slowly, without your awareness, begins to deteriorate.
Loving yourself means knowing the past is gone forever. Loving yourself means the future is not here yet and just needs planning but not dwelling there.
Loving yourself is all about doing what feels good for you.
Everyone wants his or her life to be better than it is. Even if you have everything working for you, you still want more. That feeling is human nature.
That feeling reflects the underlying fear that most people exhibit—either openly or deep within out of their awareness. The fear is not having enough. Even very rich people often think they do not have enough money.
They fear losing it and not being able to get it back fast enough. No matter how much money they make, that fear holds them tightly in bondage. That fear leads to the all too common dis-ease of workaholism.
A second fear plays into the lives of most people, insidiously driving them to always need to do more. That fear is not being enough. Those people lack self love so they constantly need to prove how good they are—to others. By seeking approval and praise from others, they think they can calm or even erase their feelings of inadequacy.
Not possible. Only you can erase your fears–by loving yourself first.