When you care about someone who suffers the loss of a loved one, even if that someone is no longer part of your life, sometimes you just want to let them know how much you care.
What can each individual do to make a difference for all of us and the planet too?
Remember who you really are and your connection to the God force and to each person (animal and thing) in every moment so you stay at a high frequency. You will fill yourself with so much love you can give it away indefinitely. Love solves every problem that ever has or ever will exist.
Remember that the God Force is pure love energy. You be love. Don’t think about it or read about it. Once you get to that place you focus on feeling happy and the rest just happens. You become love.
In case you think this is all hooey – remember when the Beatles came out with the song “All You Really Need Is Love?” I thought they were nuts. Back then I thought love was a euphemism for the word sex (now I am talking about a time of hippies and free love). Wisdom really does come with age—well sometimes it does. And I know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, love is THE solution to every problem. Period.
What do I mean by love in this context?
Love comes from your heart. When you truly share yourself with compassion, when you have no intention of getting something in return – that is love. When you feel yourself caring about others even though they are not with you that is love.
And when you honor and respect yourself and your needs that too is love.
The neat thing about real love is the more you give it away, the more it comes back to stay. So you can be generous giving out your love.
Perhaps the best way to share your love is to be love. How? Love yourself first.
Fill yourself with so much love by creating habits that honor and respect you, by knowing who you really are (your True Self – your Spirit). Stay constantly connected with your True Self (Spirit) to become the energy of love. Love will pour out of you. Your aura will be filled with love.
Others will want to be with you and they do not even know why – except that being with you feels good. And the really great news is that being love is not exclusive to you. Every person on this planet can become love. But you always have to start by loving yourself, your True Self, first.
The rest happens automatically.
Each of us has a unique definition of love. Yet we think everyone defines it the same way we do. For that reason people who are deeply cherished sometimes think no one loves them.
How do you know love in your terms? For you, feeling loved may mean hearing the words, “I love you.” Or love may mean being held and caressed. Or love may mean going out on date. The list goes on and on for as many people as exist on this planet!
Knowing love is an individual experience. You need to know exactly how you experience feeling loved AND you need to tell those in your world how to show you love.
Otherwise, they will give you love according to their definition of love, which may not mean love at all to you! And you may go through life thinking they never ever loved you when actually they cherished you!
I want to emphasize this crucial point by saying it again in different words so you really get what I mean. You need to live love according to your definition of love.
And make sure to love yourself. When you feel at peace and know love yourself for yourself, then and only then, can you give love to another person or animal. Without self-love, you can only know about love.
You can read about it. You can talk about it. You can think you feel and experience it.
Yet, you can never give what you do not have, can you?
Be in love with yourself. Be in love with your partner. Be in love with your family. Be in love with your friends. Love your pet.
Act on that love every day. Ask others what love is for them so you can give them love they experience as love!
Your life and how you experience your world are always in your control – always and in all ways. You alone give meaning to events and actions.
Take the time to figure out exactly what you need to hear or feel or do so that you know others love you. The time and effort will pay off big time as you will never need to feel unloved agaion. You will clearly know who is willing to love you so you feel love and who cannot do so.
Ah, then you get to choose to accept the people who cannot meet your definition of love for you anyway – exactly as they are and exactly as they are not.
You get to decide who stays in your world and who no longer fits.
Tell me your feelings about this quotation, one of my favorite definitions of love.
“I love you,
Not for what you are,
But for what I am
When I am with you.”
Leave a comment to share your personal feelings on that quote. Tell me what love means to you. We often think everyone shares our meaning for that word. Actually each of us has our own specific definition. For that reason a person can feel totally unloved when in fact they are deeply cherished – by someone who defines love differently.
Come back tomorrow for more about the meaning of love.
Are you a parent? Grandparent? Know anyone with kids? Then you want to know…beware of expectations you see what you expect to see.
Pay attention to your expectations. Your child will be the person you expect him to be. Why? You see the behaviors that kind of person exhibits and you approve of them in some fashion. You send the message to your child that acting that way is a good thing.
You actually sort for those behaviors and miss signs of his being different from your expectations. Behaviors that are not reinforced gradually disappear.
By reinforced behaviors I mean noticed and responded to. Those behaviors may be something you like or they may be something you want to avoid and have not figured out how to eliminate as yet.
Whatever you focus on in your world will grow bigger. The way a small blemish feels like it has taken over your entire face, one small behavior can be blown out of proportion in your head. The more you pay attention to that undesirable thing the larger it looms.
Follow your instincts. If your child does something you do not want him to do then tell him that behavior is unacceptable. Let him know, clearly tell him, using “I” messages (more about that later), why you do not want him to repeat that behavior. Then move on to a different action leaving the first behind. Avoid focusing any more energy there.
When you expect appropriate behavior and have taught your child how to behave in different situations then you will see appropriate behaviors regardless of circumstances. Kids have instincts too. They want to make you happy. Like adults, they also want to feel accepted.
Many parents are afraid to discipline their kids. Those parents mistakenly believe their kids will not like them if they set out rules for them to follow. The fact is, rules show a child great love. In essence, rules tell your child, ”I love you so much I want you to stay safe. And I want you to act in ways that show you respect others so they will respect you.”
No one likes unruly kids. How does a kid become disruptive? How can a child know proper behavior unless an adult models it AND explains it? Parents who fear not being loved let their kids run amuck.
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