Psychotherapy, by avoiding the spiritual aspect of life, misses the basic causes of all issues.
While working as a psychotherapist I recall learning that forgiveness is something you do for yourself.
Obviously that fact is true.
I also learned that not forgiving someone is like eating poison and expecting the other person (the one you refuse to forgive) to die.
On a physiological level that statement rings true too.
What if forgiveness is less about letting go of the hurtful deed you felt at another’s hands and more about seeing the gift in the event?
What if forgiveness means for giving love to the one you think hurt you.
Most psychotherapists rightfully stride to separate religion from talk therapy. Yet you cannot disregard spirituality when working with a person. People are Divine Spirits living human experiences.
Unless you live in a cave in some remote high mountains you know everything and everyone, including us, is energy – spirits temporarily housed in human bodies. You also heard that we are all connected as One.
The left brain, housing your ego mind, stands guard to prevent your living in that truth lest it lose all the power it has over you.
When someone seems to do something hurtful to you realize they are gifting you the opportunity to grow and evolve your Spirit to a higher level. Give them love for what they did that forced you to take steps you would no have taken otherwise.
Send them love for being in your life.
On a spiritual level each and every person in your world agreed to come here in this lifetime to teach lessons to each other. When you look for the gift in every situation you will discover what you learned. Then you will truly feel love.
Forgiving means for giving love in every sense of the word.
That action does more than just free you. It reminds you of the Universal Laws that govern the world – whether or not you know about or believe them.
Why stay stuck in pain? Choose to reveal the lessons learned through pain and disappointment that move you forward in life.