Psychotherapists assign formal labels to clients so that clients can file for insurance. What people do not know about that process hurts them on very many levels.
The insurance companies employ non-therapists to make decisions about how many visits and what kind of therapies to approve. Non-therapist money managers, hired to keep the insurance company not just in the black but profitable, make decisions that affect lives all day long, day after day.
Psychotherapists often find themselves assigning diagnostic labels that do not accurately fit clients because they know some diagnoses have a higher likelihood of getting more treatments okayed than do other diagnoses.
Do you know what happens when those labels get recorded in personal records?
The insurance company may sell their list and the information in those reports may go to companies that clear possible employees for a job.
If you already work some place and use your company insurance seeking talk therapy your employer will know about your personal life—the parts no one should know but you, right?
No wonder so many people seeking psychotherapy pay their own way. They protect themselves from making what should be private public!
Many people do not even know their records reflect diagnoses that label them – not as people but as sufferers of disorders like depression, bi-polar, or schizophrenic. Consequently when those clients move to a new therapist their label preceeds them.
Unfortunately many psychotherapists, overloaded with too heavy case loads, peruse the records of new patients – basically looking for the label that some other therapist assigned – making a value judgment that may or may not be accurate.
When I worked as a psychotherapist I wrote my reports as if the client was reading over my shoulder. People have a right to know how others view them – and judge them to be.
Better yet, people want to know their answers lie within themselves NOT outside in the mind of somebody else.
People guess where to start when they ask a psychotherapist for help to heal wounds.
Psychotherapists have no way of knowing which topics that bother a client will clear the many faster and deeper. They seek to help clients talk about their problems.
The client chooses what he or she believes to be the most important issue bothering him or her at the time.
How do they make that choice?
The only way the average person knows how to choose what to talk about in therapy session is to ask the conscious mind where to start.
Two problems present themselves immediately with that approach.
• The problems lie outside of conscious awareness in the subconscious mind.
• The conscious ego mind makes choices with no clue that the files located in the subconscious mind are actually arranged in a hierarchy such that clearing root cause priorities automatically, easily and instantly clears issues falling below that priority.
A person can talk for weeks, months, even years about issues (I witnessed that truth as a psychotherapist observing colleagues with long-time clients) without resolving core issues or moving the client forward.
If clearing a priority allows the easy and automatic clearing of issues impacted by that cause then why don’t psychotherapists do that first?
Two reason stop psychotherapists from identifying and clearing root causes:
• They have no tools to access the priorities since they only know how to consult the conscious mind which will not give reliable answers
• They lack the know-how to completely eliminate the revealed cause instantly and permanently
Talk therapy will not uncover subconscious programming or reveal the history that set priorities. Specialized Kinesiology will.
Some types of psychotherapy operate under the assumption that the therapist and client form a relationship that mimics how the client relates to all others in his or her real world.
Yet that theory makes no sense. The therapy situation does not represent an equal terms relationship. Instead the therapist sits in the seat of power while the client, consciously or unconsciously, yields to the “wisdom” of the therapist’s experiences.
No two people experience life the same way.
One hundred people watching an event interpret it one hundred ways and tell you one hundred different versions of what happened. Not a single accounting of the event reflects reality. Each person creates his or her own reality according to how he or she filters incoming stimuli.
In the therapy relationship the message sent by the therapist or client may not even resemble the message received by the other party. Result? The likelihood of misinterpretation and the resulting misinformation hamper progress.
Yet the therapist imagines the client interacts with others the same way he or she interacts in the session. Frankly, most people put on different faces depending upon who they find themselves with and what circumstances put them together.
Most people want the approval of others so they act in ways to accomplish that end.
Clients want therapists to fix them. Many therapists believe they know how to remedy what’s wrong in the lives of their clients. They follow through with what they believe to be healthy choices of action telling their clients, or at least suggesting, what steps to take.
Obedient, people-pleasing clients take direction for two reasons: they do not want to think for themselves OR they do not want to take responsibility for how their lives turn out knowing if they continue to be unhappy they can blame the therapist who told them how and what to do.
Therapists are people learning how to live their own lives. They cannot possibly know what is best for anybody else.
Psychotherapy appears to fill many needs for individuals. Does it really accomplish that end?
Your path is just that – your path.
When you seek advice from someone else you surrender your choice to follow decisions made by someone who cannot possibly know what is in your highest and best interest.
Talking with someone, even a great listener, does help – but not in the way most people think. In fact, most people who seek the aid of psychotherapy seek answers.
They want the psychotherapist to fix them, to tell them what to do or what not to do so they can relieve the pressure and pain under which they see themselves functioning.
Notice I said the pressure and pain they see or interpret as painful.
Unfortunately most therapists work under the illusion they know what is best for the client.
After all they studied their craft and worked with many individuals. Often those clients completed their therapy sessions remarking how great they felt and moved on with their lives.
Ah, but did they really? Or did they wind up substituting one form of dissatisfaction for another? They did unless they exposed the root cause, the bottom line that placed them in the vulnerable position in the first place.
Unrevealed causes present as health issues and injuries. They show up in emotions that seem unconnected to the reason for which they originally sought talk therapy.
How then can talk therapy help?
When people write down their thoughts (especially when they write from their right brain, unencumbered by left brain “reason and logic”) they discover what they had no clue existed within.
When a person shares those thoughts aloud their impact becomes even more profound.
Rather than inappropriately burden a friend when you go through emotional upheavals in your life go talk with a professional who truly knows how to listen. Avoid anyone who thinks you came for answers.
You have your own accurate answers. You just need help recognizing how they appear in your world.
Psychotherapy fails to clear the programs in the subconscious mind, the ones the client will never access by talking or even through hypnosis. It doesn’t really resolve problems.
Sure, you will definitely find some events that you interpreted as hurtful or painful when you search for them either on your own or with the guidance of a skilled therapist. However, you will not find the basic cause that sparked the emotional blocks, those that keep you stuck in life.
When I worked in the field I saw people meeting (are you ready for this) weekly with their therapists for seven years. Yet no one could detect any progress – any discernible progress toward bringing those people into the present moment free of past experiences.
Whatever you focus on expands. More importantly, your mind interprets what you think and feel as the actual living of that experience.
Hmm. So what does that mean?
When you look for what is wrong with you or what is missing from your life you shift away from the present, the only time that truly exists and the only moment in which you can act.
Nothing is wrong in the present moment. What is off kilter happened in the past.
You may project your past into your future causing fear. Yet you can only make fear happen by going into your past, again away from the here and now, and deciding the circumstance that hurt you before will re-occur.
Guess what. When you focus on what you fear you will cause an event to happen that will leave you feeling the same as the one you retrieved from your past. Ta da! Congratulations. You get to stay stuck in your own prison.