Core values drive you determining whether you will find success or failure in life. When you run into a clash among different values, those with the highest priority win out over those that are less important in the situation at hand.
How do you create your core values?
Take a moment to think about what is really important to you…
integrity, health, being happy, truth, well being, being supportive, being logical etc
Really take your time and write down your list of what matters to you in your life. Your values help you decide who to date and who to marry, where it is okay to work and where you would really shine at work, what you do for fun, how you practice your spiritual beliefs, etc. Every aspect of your life reflects what you believe to be in your highest interest.
Seriously, take ten minutes to list your top ten values. Then place them in the order that you think goes from most important to least important. Do this now because your results will reveal how and why your life flows or flutters as it does.
Done? Okay, now look at each value one at a time. Make a note next to each describing (very briefly) why you hold that value so close to your heart and feel it necessary that you live in alignment with it.
This step is crucial so do it before reading further.
Now that you now why each value holds the place it does on your list ask yourself if you created that value in your life and gave it a high priority because in the past someone acted in a way contrary to your value leaving you feeling bad or hurt.
What do I mean? For most of my life I placed honesty as my top value. When I stopped to understand why honesty was so very important to me (I mean I need to live in honesty AND I only tolerate others in my world who also live in honesty) I discovered I never wanted to be lied to or deceived again.
You see, deception had been a common theme in my life as a child and also as an adult. Realizing that reality made me stride to live as an up-front honest person. That same value played a crucial role in my choice of partners, friends and colleagues.
The bottom line is I wanted to avoid and move away from dishonest people. By doing so I figured I could avoid a lot of potential stress from ever entering my life.
What I found is moving toward I want, rather than away from what I do not want, is far more empowering. I continued to attract dishonest people so long as I tried to avoid them!
Consequently I re-examined all my priority core values for whether I wanted them in my life or wanted to avoid having them in my life. My result? I created a new list of core values and new priorities for those that remained on my list.
Core values are your beliefs about what is important to you. They operate as integrity checks for how you live your life all across your life including both personal and professional areas.
Ultimately your success or failure in life depend on whether or not you live in alignment with your core values.
Most people never stop to actually think about what their core values are. Those who do fail to question exactly why those are so important to them. They also fail to list them in a priority order.
Why do your core values matter? Even more important, what role do they play in your life?
Did you ever do something that didn’t feel quite right? Do you work in a job you really do not like? Do you work every hard yet produce little forward progress in your life?
Your core values are those that matter most to you. Acting as a sort of sentry, they nudge you when you take actions that run contrary to what you believe is right for you and in your highest and best interest.
What do I mean? Someone who truly believes in recycling and living green yet works in an environment that wastes natural resources or, even worse, pollutes the world, constantly battles their core values. That kind of stress (going against one’s natural grain) leads (slowly but steadily) to emotional and physical health issues.
The stress usually happens in small increments and goes unnoticed until the major illness or condition stops them cold! Even then, people tend to blame other environmental issues for impacting their well being and never recognize the basis of their suffering, the true cause, is living a life that contradicts how they feel, deep in their heats at their core, how they want to and “should” live.
When you stop and look at successful people you discover they live in harmony with their core values—whether or not they are aware of doing so. Similarly, when you observe people who consistently fall short of the success they seek you see that they live a lifestyle that is blatantly out of alignment with their value system.
Health, as a physical, emotional, and spiritual concept, demands harmony across the board.
People who choose a job simply intent upon creating an income will not succeed to the degree they would if they choose to perform a job that fits their value system.
Performing tasks you do not believe in, feel strongly against doing, or weigh on your heart pose perpetual obstacles on your forward path. To end stress and live your Very Excellent Life learn how to know what your core values are and their order of importance to you.
How do you make it through a stressful day still intact and functioning?
When you fail to put strategies in place ahead of time for the possible stressful days you chance letting your emotions overpower you stealing your sense of reason and logic.
Follow these five tips to stay on top of stress and maintain control of your life and your thoughts.
1. Pay attention to your feelings. They reveal your thoughts. Whatever you think about causes you to feel a certain way. You can work backwards from your feelings to see what thoughts cause you to feel certain emotions.
Stay alert for unhappy stressful feelings.
2.When you catch yourself feeling a way other than happy and calm immediately get present in the now. You must live in the present moment to act.
You cannot act in the future. You cannot act in the past. You only act in this present moment, now.
3. Maintain a secret vault where you store good happy memories of times when you felt really great. When stress hits, without even thinking, pull out one of your instant happy thoughts from the vault and re-live that feel-good experience.
Your subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between what is real and what you imagine so it will cause you to feel as though you are living that experience.
Your mood will shift to the unstressed happy time instantly. Your body will follow the lead.
4. It is not enough to switch to good feelings and thoughts. You want to be vigilant and persistent about staying with good feelings and thoughts. If you just think a good thought to switch off the immediate stressor then let yourself slip back to habitual negative thoughts you will lose the ground you made to stay stress-free.
Whatever you think about you manifest. Persist in your feel good thinking. Feeling good leads to manifesting good things.
5. You need to do more than think good thoughts. You want to feel yourself living in the happiness of your stress-free life.
Use all five senses to virtualize (to see, hear, smell, touch, and taste) your preset moment as your happy desired life. Get into the feeling of already being there and living that life.
In fact you do live that life already. That reality already exists as a possibility for you. You can bring it to you with your thoughts and, more importantly, your consistent feelings.