Core values are your beliefs about what is important to you. They operate as integrity checks for how you live your life all across your life including both personal and professional areas.
Ultimately your success or failure in life depend on whether or not you live in alignment with your core values.
Most people never stop to actually think about what their core values are. Those who do fail to question exactly why those are so important to them. They also fail to list them in a priority order.
Why do your core values matter? Even more important, what role do they play in your life?
Did you ever do something that didn’t feel quite right? Do you work in a job you really do not like? Do you work every hard yet produce little forward progress in your life?
Your core values are those that matter most to you. Acting as a sort of sentry, they nudge you when you take actions that run contrary to what you believe is right for you and in your highest and best interest.
What do I mean? Someone who truly believes in recycling and living green yet works in an environment that wastes natural resources or, even worse, pollutes the world, constantly battles their core values. That kind of stress (going against one’s natural grain) leads (slowly but steadily) to emotional and physical health issues.
The stress usually happens in small increments and goes unnoticed until the major illness or condition stops them cold! Even then, people tend to blame other environmental issues for impacting their well being and never recognize the basis of their suffering, the true cause, is living a life that contradicts how they feel, deep in their heats at their core, how they want to and “should” live.
When you stop and look at successful people you discover they live in harmony with their core values—whether or not they are aware of doing so. Similarly, when you observe people who consistently fall short of the success they seek you see that they live a lifestyle that is blatantly out of alignment with their value system.
Health, as a physical, emotional, and spiritual concept, demands harmony across the board.
People who choose a job simply intent upon creating an income will not succeed to the degree they would if they choose to perform a job that fits their value system.
Performing tasks you do not believe in, feel strongly against doing, or weigh on your heart pose perpetual obstacles on your forward path. To end stress and live your Very Excellent Life learn how to know what your core values are and their order of importance to you.
There is a single priority stress relief tip. Without this one, nothing else will work permanently or completely.
Stress relief is a do-it-yourself job. You can glean tips from other people but you alone carry through on what you know you can and will do.
The way to relieve stress is to love yourself first. It is not selfish. It is mandatory.
What do I mean by mandatory?
Can you ever give away something that you do not have yourself? Can you possibly horn and respect anyone you do not love?
Until you love, honor and respect yourself you will continue to please others. You will do everything in your power to make them happy. In fact you will neglect your own needs for rest and nourishment (physical, emotional and spiritual) to place the needs of others ahead of your own.
Each of those habits creates tremendous stress for you in all those three areas: physical, emotional and spiritual. So long as you take on being responsible for how others live their lives and whether or not they are happy you cannot possibly reduce your stress level, let alone eliminate it.
Realize that no matter how hard you work you cannot please others enough. Besides, that is their job not yours.
Your job is to please you. Theirs is to please themselves. If anyone tells you differently see their falsehood for the lie it is. When someone expects you to put their needs ahead of yours they are acting in a very selfish manner.
In the words of Oliver Wendell Holmes, “Selfishness is not doing what you want to do. Selfishness is expecting others to do what you want them to do.”
See the difference in how you taking care of your own needs (not telling others what to do for you) is no way, no how selfish?
Until you take care of your own needs and leave taking care of the needs of others to others you will not love yourself. Until you love yourself you will not live stress-free.
Unless you live stress-free you will never know happiness – let alone joy and wealth.
You need to live your life for you.
What do you love to do? You need to create psychic income not just money. You came here to fulfill on a purpose.
If you spend your life making others happy can you do what you feel driven to do? Can you do what you desire, more than anything, to accomplish?
Remember, this is your life. You can only live it when you eliminate the stress that holds you back.