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Happiness is Feeling Appreciated

One of the most basic needs all people share is that of feeling appreciated. Hearing the words, “Thank you,” mean very little. After all, when you think about it most parents taught their kids to say thank you with a push like, “What do you say to Aunt Jane for the new book?”

Seriously, did that thank you mean anything to you? Not only did it lack meaning but perhaps you even felt a bit embarrassed and resentful that your mom made you say it. Am I right?

Today, as an adult, those words feel empty and automatic with no genuine care behind them. You can tell someone truly appreciates what you did vs. the polite and expected response.

Appreciation goes way beyond those often empty words. When someone is ever so grateful that you did something for them they let you know. They shower you with praise and gratitude, yes?

How do you feel when someone truly notices and thanks you for your effort because it really meant a lot to them? You feel so good inside that you want to do more, don’t you? You feel like you can’t wait to find another task they need done.

Why do you feel like doing even more? Doesn’t that mean more work for you?

The bottom line is that every person needs the psychic income of knowing that what they do makes a difference to someone or something. Every individual has a genuine human need to know that his presence, his existence, matters.

People need to know they are valuable and others recognize, respect, and honor their value.

Most people think that monetary income is the be-all end-all in their lives. They erroneously believe that chasing the all mighty dollar will fulfill their deepest desires for accomplishment, for love, for happiness.

Yet nothing could be further from the truth. Money will never buy anything that has true worth because the highest valued things are not tangible items you can hold or material objects you can buy.

The things that matter most to people and really allowing them to live in happiness are the intangibles like self confidence, self love, improving the lives of others and the well being of the planet.

Most people recognize that happiness comes from within oneself and never from any outside source. They live in the knowledge that psychic income far outweighs monetary gain.

I do not mean to say money has no value in a person’s life. Of course one needs it to exist and quite frankly, the more money you have the better. But only psychic income allows people to know and live in success, wealth and happiness.

You can’t buy happiness. Those words are not a platitude. That statement is fact. You create your happiness by doing things that make you happy.

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