Each of us has a unique definition of love. Yet we think everyone defines it the same way we do. For that reason people who are deeply cherished sometimes think no one loves them.
How do you know love in your terms? For you, feeling loved may mean hearing the words, “I love you.” Or love may mean being held and caressed. Or love may mean going out on date. The list goes on and on for as many people as exist on this planet!
Knowing love is an individual experience. You need to know exactly how you experience feeling loved AND you need to tell those in your world how to show you love.
Otherwise, they will give you love according to their definition of love, which may not mean love at all to you! And you may go through life thinking they never ever loved you when actually they cherished you!
I want to emphasize this crucial point by saying it again in different words so you really get what I mean. You need to live love according to your definition of love.
And make sure to love yourself. When you feel at peace and know love yourself for yourself, then and only then, can you give love to another person or animal. Without self-love, you can only know about love.
You can read about it. You can talk about it. You can think you feel and experience it.
Yet, you can never give what you do not have, can you?
Be in love with yourself. Be in love with your partner. Be in love with your family. Be in love with your friends. Love your pet.
Act on that love every day. Ask others what love is for them so you can give them love they experience as love!
Your life and how you experience your world are always in your control – always and in all ways. You alone give meaning to events and actions.
Take the time to figure out exactly what you need to hear or feel or do so that you know others love you. The time and effort will pay off big time as you will never need to feel unloved agaion. You will clearly know who is willing to love you so you feel love and who cannot do so.
Ah, then you get to choose to accept the people who cannot meet your definition of love for you anyway – exactly as they are and exactly as they are not.
You get to decide who stays in your world and who no longer fits.