People usually assume their depressed feelings are their own. They never stop to notice or ask if those feelings belong to them or to those in their environment.
Of course we don’t’ ask if what we feel belongs to us or to someone else. We were not raised in a paradigm letting us know the possibility exists that we take on the feelings of others and allow them to impact our lives – sometimes very severely.
People begin that habit in childhood. In talking with people who call themselves depressed I found that many were the caretakers in their families – starting at a very young age.
What do I mean they were the caretakers?
As young children they heard the anger and hurt and tried to rectify the situation. As kids they took on the job of making it all better for all the adults and other siblings in the household.
When they started school that habit carried forth into arenas beyond their family. When anyone they knew, close friend or not, got hurt or had a problem they knew about, as young kids these people felt the other person’s hurt – emotionally and sometimes physically.
That was not a voluntary intention on their part. People seem to be born that way. Actually that is a gift called being an empath. Only it will not operate in your life as a gift unless you know you have that ability AND you realize what you feel may very well not be your emotions or pains at all!
Very many people prefer to ignore their feelings. They do want to experience them so they don’t. They go through life attracting people who will do their feeling for them.
That scenario is all too common for, but not exclusive to, women. Obviously not all women do this but many do marry men or get into relationships with men who do not acknowledge any emotions either in themselves or in others.
Those men deny dramatic events in their lives and use, what they describe as logic (If you ever stop and pay attention to most of their “logical” explanations you will find them to be anything but logical.) to pretend the events have no meaning for them and do not matter or the problems will work themselves out if you ignore them long enough.
Empaths tend to live lives of suffering calling themselves depressed and maybe even sickly. Only when they discover those feelings and symptoms do not belong to them will they be able to release what is not theirs and learn how to use their gift to help others without harming themselves.