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Reduce Stress By Knowing Your Life’s Direction And How To Measure Your Progress

To reach your desired destination in life you need to know where you want to wind up AND you need to know your starting point. The drive to Manhattan follows a different route if you start out in Texas than if you start out in Idaho, right?

Planning your life is like planning a fun trip. The big difference is that most people spend lots of time and energy figuring out their vacation trip but no time planning their life’s journey.

Interesting, huh? Of course you would not be reading this article right now if you fell into that category of people who fail to plan for living their Very Excellent Life.

Okay, so you know your dream life style, right? If you don’t then start there. Make the time to write about how you want to live, what you want to have, where you want to be and what you want to be doing when you live your dream life.

Fill in as much detail as possible AND leave room for the Universe to fill in even greater detail so you do not limit what you can be, do and have.

Done? Great. Now move to the next step.

Look at your life. Write down your current situation in each of these areas: physical health, emotional health, relationships, money matters, spirituality, fun and recreation, self image, living in the now.

Next, on a scale of 1-10 with 1 being ”I need lots of help to reach my dream goal in that area” and 10 being “I am right there at a ten now,” assign a number to each life area based upon your description of your current circumstances.

Take your time making this assessment. The more accurately you pin point your current situation the easier you will find marking your progress toward your goal.

Realize that nothing is ever set in stone. As you gain life experience and move along your path to your Very Excellent Life you may find new directions and set new goals for yourself. In fact is you may alter your definition of your Very Excellent Life significantly, That is okay. When and if that happens for you then you will make adjustments. Right now your job is simply to note where you are today.

You will notice narrow gaps in some areas between your current and desired states. In other areas your gaps may be huge. The size of the gap makes no difference. You can close all of them. Only you will do so by working in only one area at a time.

Core Values: Where Do Core Values Come From

Core values drive you determining whether you will find success or failure in life. When you run into a clash among different values, those with the highest priority win out over those that are less important in the situation at hand.

How do you create your core values?

Take a moment to think about what is really important to you…
integrity, health, being happy, truth, well being, being supportive, being logical etc

Really take your time and write down your list of what matters to you in your life. Your values help you decide who to date and who to marry, where it is okay to work and where you would really shine at work, what you do for fun, how you practice your spiritual beliefs, etc. Every aspect of your life reflects what you believe to be in your highest interest.

Seriously, take ten minutes to list your top ten values. Then place them in the order that you think goes from most important to least important. Do this now because your results will reveal how and why your life flows or flutters as it does.

Done? Okay, now look at each value one at a time. Make a note next to each describing (very briefly) why you hold that value so close to your heart and feel it necessary that you live in alignment with it.

This step is crucial so do it before reading further.

Now that you now why each value holds the place it does on your list ask yourself if you created that value in your life and gave it a high priority because in the past someone acted in a way contrary to your value leaving you feeling bad or hurt.

What do I mean? For most of my life I placed honesty as my top value. When I stopped to understand why honesty was so very important to me (I mean I need to live in honesty AND I only tolerate others in my world who also live in honesty) I discovered I never wanted to be lied to or deceived again.

You see, deception had been a common theme in my life as a child and also as an adult. Realizing that reality made me stride to live as an up-front honest person. That same value played a crucial role in my choice of partners, friends and colleagues.

The bottom line is I wanted to avoid and move away from dishonest people. By doing so I figured I could avoid a lot of potential stress from ever entering my life.

What I found is moving toward I want, rather than away from what I do not want, is far more empowering. I continued to attract dishonest people so long as I tried to avoid them!

Consequently I re-examined all my priority core values for whether I wanted them in my life or wanted to avoid having them in my life. My result? I created a new list of core values and new priorities for those that remained on my list.

Core Values: Core Values Drive Your Success or Failure

Core values are your beliefs about what is important to you. They operate as integrity checks for how you live your life all across your life including both personal and professional areas.

Ultimately your success or failure in life depend on whether or not you live in alignment with your core values.

Most people never stop to actually think about what their core values are. Those who do fail to question exactly why those are so important to them. They also fail to list them in a priority order.

Why do your core values matter? Even more important, what role do they play in your life?

Did you ever do something that didn’t feel quite right? Do you work in a job you really do not like? Do you work every hard yet produce little forward progress in your life?

Your core values are those that matter most to you. Acting as a sort of sentry, they nudge you when you take actions that run contrary to what you believe is right for you and in your highest and best interest.

What do I mean? Someone who truly believes in recycling and living green yet works in an environment that wastes natural resources or, even worse, pollutes the world, constantly battles their core values. That kind of stress (going against one’s natural grain) leads (slowly but steadily) to emotional and physical health issues.

The stress usually happens in small increments and goes unnoticed until the major illness or condition stops them cold! Even then, people tend to blame other environmental issues for impacting their well being and never recognize the basis of their suffering, the true cause, is living a life that contradicts how they feel, deep in their heats at their core, how they want to and “should” live.

When you stop and look at successful people you discover they live in harmony with their core values—whether or not they are aware of doing so. Similarly, when you observe people who consistently fall short of the success they seek you see that they live a lifestyle that is blatantly out of alignment with their value system.

Health, as a physical, emotional, and spiritual concept, demands harmony across the board.

People who choose a job simply intent upon creating an income will not succeed to the degree they would if they choose to perform a job that fits their value system.

Performing tasks you do not believe in, feel strongly against doing, or weigh on your heart pose perpetual obstacles on your forward path. To end stress and live your Very Excellent Life learn how to know what your core values are and their order of importance to you.