Psychotherapy appears to fill many needs for individuals. Does it really accomplish that end?
Your path is just that – your path.
When you seek advice from someone else you surrender your choice to follow decisions made by someone who cannot possibly know what is in your highest and best interest.
Talking with someone, even a great listener, does help – but not in the way most people think. In fact, most people who seek the aid of psychotherapy seek answers.
They want the psychotherapist to fix them, to tell them what to do or what not to do so they can relieve the pressure and pain under which they see themselves functioning.
Notice I said the pressure and pain they see or interpret as painful.
Unfortunately most therapists work under the illusion they know what is best for the client.
After all they studied their craft and worked with many individuals. Often those clients completed their therapy sessions remarking how great they felt and moved on with their lives.
Ah, but did they really? Or did they wind up substituting one form of dissatisfaction for another? They did unless they exposed the root cause, the bottom line that placed them in the vulnerable position in the first place.
Unrevealed causes present as health issues and injuries. They show up in emotions that seem unconnected to the reason for which they originally sought talk therapy.
How then can talk therapy help?
When people write down their thoughts (especially when they write from their right brain, unencumbered by left brain “reason and logic”) they discover what they had no clue existed within.
When a person shares those thoughts aloud their impact becomes even more profound.
Rather than inappropriately burden a friend when you go through emotional upheavals in your life go talk with a professional who truly knows how to listen. Avoid anyone who thinks you came for answers.
You have your own accurate answers. You just need help recognizing how they appear in your world.
Psychotherapy fails to clear the programs in the subconscious mind, the ones the client will never access by talking or even through hypnosis. It doesn’t really resolve problems.
Sure, you will definitely find some events that you interpreted as hurtful or painful when you search for them either on your own or with the guidance of a skilled therapist. However, you will not find the basic cause that sparked the emotional blocks, those that keep you stuck in life.
When I worked in the field I saw people meeting (are you ready for this) weekly with their therapists for seven years. Yet no one could detect any progress – any discernible progress toward bringing those people into the present moment free of past experiences.
Whatever you focus on expands. More importantly, your mind interprets what you think and feel as the actual living of that experience.
Hmm. So what does that mean?
When you look for what is wrong with you or what is missing from your life you shift away from the present, the only time that truly exists and the only moment in which you can act.
Nothing is wrong in the present moment. What is off kilter happened in the past.
You may project your past into your future causing fear. Yet you can only make fear happen by going into your past, again away from the here and now, and deciding the circumstance that hurt you before will re-occur.
Guess what. When you focus on what you fear you will cause an event to happen that will leave you feeling the same as the one you retrieved from your past. Ta da! Congratulations. You get to stay stuck in your own prison.
Many psychotherapists describe their clients as innocent victims of a chemical imbalances, something beyond the control of the client. They tell you that depression, bipolar disorder and most aberrant behaviors cannot be helped and are best treated with drugs.
How then, do those professionals explain the fact that people who exhibit multiple personalities change their physiology as they change from one personality to another?
Documented cases reveal a client having diabetes when living as personality A yet normal blood sugar while living as personality B. Personality C may break out in hives while eating a certain food yet a switch to personality D instantly eliminates the itchy bumps.
Body chemistry is not the cause of the seeming personality disorder. What the person thinks and how he or she feels and acts determine the body’s chemistry.
Indeed, as the saying goes, “You are not what you think you are. But what you think – you are.”
Your thoughts create your world. Each individual, therefore, is solely responsible for his mental health. There are no innocent victims – ever.
People who choose to abdicate responsibility for how they live in each moment run self-limiting negative thoughts, often completely outside their awareness, all day long.
Those negative thoughts lower their frequency of vibrations. They find themselves attracting what they do not want in their lives because they can only attract other low vibration people, things and circumstances that vibrate in harmony with them.
Negative thoughts lead to a loss of well being that leads to chemical imbalances. How convenient is that? What a great escape from reality!
Such people, seeking labels that “justify” their lack of productivity or happiness or success, visit psychotherapists and psychiatrists who gladly perpetuate the myth that chemical imbalances cause mental illness.
When working with a psychotherapist you talk about your problems to move out of pain. Talking about problems makes them worse.
To talk about something you have to think about it. You search your memory banks for all evidence that confirms what you are saying. Consequently you bring up painful topics and relive past experiences – those that you think caused your life to stop working the way you believe it should.
When you talk about painful experiences you lower your frequency of vibration.
You can only attract events, people and things that vibrate in harmony with your current frequency of vibration. Low frequencies attract people, things and events that vibrate at low frequencies while high frequencies attract everything and everyone vibrating at the high levels.
All that you desire, all the good and happy things you say you want in life, vibrate at high frequencies.
You cannot possibly attract the good things you say you want while talking about and focusing your energy and time on what hurts.
Does it serve you to live in your past? Do you feel good when you talk about events that you interpreted as hurtful to you?
How can it help to wonder why someone did something to you that left you feeling unhappy, in pain, lost or disillusioned?
Does staying in such feel bad energy raise your vibration? Does it move you to a place where you feel good about yourself and your life?
Do you really want to work with a psychotherapist who has not resolved his or her own issues?
Psychotherapists are people – just like everybody else, right? They live through growth experiences and handle life their way.
I once heard a colleague describe a service he called Therapist’s Central. He said the Universe links together clients with issues ABC and psychotherapists dealing with issue ABC.
A social worker doing psychotherapy once told me her clients make her do her own work to stay one step ahead of her clients.
Would you take wellness advice from an overweight out of shape doctor?
Can you honestly expect someone who does not know how to resolve his or her own issues to assist you with yours?
Even worse that the above scenario is the psychotherapist who fantasizes that all is well with him or her yet continues to experience conflict, dissatisfaction or lack in any area of life.
In my experience as a psychotherapist I found that people who tell you how happy they are rarely are happy at all. They work to convince themselves all is well within when the rest of the world sees the obvious struggle in their daily behaviors.
It may surprise you to know that many therapists take drugs to alter their moods, to stay focused, to stay calm, or to know peace. They know what medications to ask for and they know which doctor will prescribe what they desire.
Most psychotherapists chose their profession because someone helped them through a crisis or they truly want to assist others in living happier, healthier lives. Many psychology degree programs require students to become a client to clear out any issues within.
That is the great news. The less great news is how do you eliminate what is completely out of your awareness? Because, you see, when programs run in the subconscious mind of the therapist those blocks may well impact how they work with their clients.
Neither client nor therapist is privy to that fact.