Eliminate Stress: Listen to the Whispers of the Universe

When you pay attention to what goes on in your world every day you begin to notice patterns. Those patterns create unpleasant feelings meant to wake up and notice that something in your life is very off.

In fact that something is all about a big lesson you have been avoiding learning.

The Universe presents that same issue repeatedly. The names and faces will vary but the problem will always carry thecae theme.

Each time you ignore your chance to learn your lesson the Universe throws that issue back at you with a little more impact until finally the magnitude of the pain is not only in your face but it is also too painful to ignore!

These lessons are not about some secret way to behave. Not at all. In fact the opposite is true. You know what you need to do yet continually fail to do what you know you need to do.

Sound familiar yet? Here is an example to clarify what I mean.

When I worked as a psychotherapist in crisis care I knew the facility was not really a safe place. I also knew I often spent more time counseling my co-workers than the clients. Hmm.

Do you see anything off in that situation?

What I needed to do was leave that facility.

I knew I needed to leave. I knew I worked differently than the others and a more creative practice would better suit me. I knew all those facts.

Yet I failed to make any effort to leave. So my colleagues developed more and more problems and the clients grew more dangerous – little by little. Those events were the whispers that I ignored.

Finally the Universe took me out of that place and out of mainstream psychotherapy all together with a definite not subtle act. A client cornered and attacked me leaving me disabled with a brain injury.

You would think I learned not to ignore subtle messages from the Universe after suffering such a traumatic dramatic event, yes? Well, I didn’t.

I moved to farm country over a year ago. Last fall spiders started biting me while I slept.  I am talking very poisonous spiders. I was very sick for a while.
When I saw loads of spiders in the house this summer you’d think I would have packed up and moved away, right? Naw. I hired a pest control company.

Only spiders are not the only problem. Mice are running all over the place. And now moths have begun to attack.

Do you see how the whispers escalated into shouts?
I won’t even tell you the worst incidents—too gross. And still I was not leaving.

Then finally I got it! I started listening to the messages and am looking for a new place to live now.

It took me years to see all the things out here that have been hurting my health and well being. All I saw was the beauty, the calm and the privacy. I missed that my health declined and my stress increased. Duh.

Listen for the whispers to avoid serious pain and overwhelming stress, okay?

Stress and Divorced 40 Something Women

Many divorced 40-something women experience stress in a number of areas. It seems like a mid-life awakening nudges them to move out of the boxes in which they lived, seemingly in safety, all their lives.

If you fall into that category then I have some great news for you.

You see, you never were really comfortable at all. You just did what you knew rather than chance jumping into the unknown. Now you can free yourself from that false sense of security and finally forge a new path, specific to you, that leads you where you want to go.

You may feel uncertain about where you want to go. Actually you do know. You only lack knowing how to get in touch with that information that already lives inside you.

How about taking a brief view of your current circumstances?

Since you chose to read this title you already feel stress in your life. Maybe you are recently divorced after a long marriage. Ii is not uncommon, today, for couples to get divorced after more than thirty years of marriage.

Even if the separation was a mutual agreement and an amicable split you still have feelings to deal with. Those feelings may be in your awareness or maybe you buried them to prevent any further hurt for the time being.

Perhaps this is the first time you are living on your own. As freeing as that sounds it is also limiting. When you need a hug or some help in the middle of the night – you have you to count on to make it through. Well, maybe you have a pet and phone number you can call. The thing is this situation is new for you.

Of course being in a marriage can be more lonely than living on your own. So maybe you already adjusted to being alone. Know what I mean?

Your whole social life may be in a bit of an upheaval. Friends who you enjoyed as a couple may feel uncomfortable being with just you. So there is yet another adjustment to make.

OR you can see that experience as an adventure into new territory and a chance to know new people.

Now that you get to prepare food just for you, you get to do what you want. Ah, and you get to show you how important you are by preparing nice meals – just for you.

It surprises me how many women do not bother, as they say, to prepare luscious fun and elegant dishes just for themselves. Who is worth more in your life than you?

If the response was you do not need or deserve it then you definitely have a lot of stress around self care, self worth and self image.

Add health, if you are moving through the change of life and a new desire to connect with your spiritual side add both to the mix.

Well, no wonder you feel so much stress. But what if you viewed each point as a new beginning into a world of surprises? Whether those surprises feel good or otherwise – well that choice is yours alone to make.

Stress is a choice you make by deciding what feels good and what feels overwhelming and scary.

Stress Or Worry?

How are stress and worry related? The obvious answer is that worry leads to stress.

Well, what exactly is worry? Worry is a fantasy state .To live there you have to go back into your past and pull out a situation then feed (with attention and focus) it to make it real for you.

Your imagination cannot tell the difference between what is real and what is not. So worry seems very real and becomes downright scary. When you take a memory out, feed it and re-live it you add additional energy making it bigger than the regional perceived experience.

In fact, every time you think about that concern you increase its power over you as it looms bugger and bigger and more and more possible in your future. Of course that isn’t the truth unless you choose to make it your truth.

Worry produces all the symptoms you wood if the situation was really happening in the moment. Remember, whatever you experience in your imagination is real for you. So you get sweaty palms and maybe a racing heartbeat, maybe a bit dizzy and hyper.

Okay, so while you experience all those symptoms you stress your body. You succeeded in moving your old memories out of your pest and put them in your present so you can now trick yourself into believing you are doing something to resolve any issues you still carry around as excess baggage.

Worry then results from uprooting unresolved past issues by placing them in your now. Doing so takes a toll on your current emotional and physical states. That toll gets labeled stress.

Stress is the expression of the cumulative effects of worry rather than the source of the painful experience. If worry is the cause then stress is the effect.

Therefore, to eliminate stress you must eliminate the cause, i.e., the worry.

How can you get rid of the worry and therefore the stress too?

The fastest, easiest and permanent way to erase worry involves dislodging the blocks in your energy field that were created by events earlier in life.

Every event, good or bad (which are only your interpretations of meaningless happenings) cause small blocks in your energy body (meridians and chakras and light bodies).
Those blocks fall on very specific points. Each meridian, chakra and light body connects to a specific emotion. Your feelings cause blocks across every emotion involved in the event.

Clearing the blocks energetically is quick and easy – when you work with a specialized kinesiologist who understands how and where you store what.

Stress: Reduce Stress by Creating a Support Network

A support network can serve as a great stress reducer. Many minds can assist you in viewing any event or circumstance differently then you can all by yourself.

Yet a support network offers so much more than just other perspectives.

People are community creatures. We were not designed to live separately as hermits. When people fail to get adequate hugs and touching they fail to thrive.

When they fail to thrive they have less resilience to bounce back from stressful events. In fact they are less likely to make it through the overwhelm or pressure of tough moments when they suffer from a touch shortage.

No joke here. Many experiments led to the handling, rubbing and cuddling of premature babies in intensive care of neonatal wards.

Make sure some of the people in your support network live close by so you get physical hugs often – every day is optimal.

Just how many hugs makes a difference for people?

Virginia Satir, the founder of Family Therapy, said that people need 4 hugs a day to survive, eight to get by and twelve to thrive. How many people get twelve a hugs a day? How many get even one hug a day?

Everyone needs to know someone loves them. Make certain at least one person in your support network loves you. (Your support network can be family, friends and colleagues.) Realize you gotta love yourself first to ever move to stress-free living.

You teach people how to treat you by how you treat yourself. You set the example.

An interesting possible addition to your support network is a pet: cat, dog, ferret, whatever animal you like – assuming you like and can care for a pet. You can count on a pet to make you smile. Smiles go a long way to reduce and eliminate stress.

Accountability partners offer needed support regardless of whether you need help staying on task with personal or professional goals. When you tell yourself you will accomplish ABC by a specific time and date you may feel extremely pressured to finish it if you have someone waiting to hear of your completion.

If the only person wanting to know if you finish what you said you would is you, well, most people have a hard time keeping commitments they make only to themselves. When you feel like you let yourself down you heap a whole lot of stress and bad feelings on yourself.

One function of a support network that I especially like is having friends who remind me of what I already know and forget when I get stressed. Those reminders powerfully get me back on track.

Under duress we forget what we know. At those times friends remind us what to do. They do not tell us anything we do not already know. They tell us what we need to hear right then and there.

Want To Know How To Eliminate Stress Right Now?

So you want to know how to eliminate stress right now?
I used to think that stress was part of life. I figured I could get through stressful events and be okay. But then another event would pop up, another event to get through. Which is what I did.
Until…
I discovered that I create my stress. Me. No body and nothing else.
No one can make me feel happy or sad or at peace but me. And no one and nothing can make me feel stressed out.
I can hear you saying, “But Ali, you don’t know what he did to me. This is different He made me feel pressured and overwhelmed. I didn’t used to feel that way!”
To which I reply, “Then why do you choose to feel that way now?”
You alone interpret events in your world. No one can tell you how to view or how to feel about anything or anyone.
I realize if someone caused you bad pain of any kind (physical, emotional or spiritual) you will blame them for your feeling bad now. So stop a moment and tell me when you are living. Are you not in this moment here and now?
Are you living back, how many years ago, when that trauma happened? You can’t. That time is gone. The best you can do is drudge up memories that come with your unique interpretation of events.
Your interpretation of events? Yes.
One hundred people witnessing the exact same event will describe one hundred different scenarios as to what took place. Some variations will be so far apart from each other you will not even recognize them as describing the same sequence of events.
The reason you didn’t know that you create your stress is you do not know you live on automatic. You live in yesterday’s world and you will do it again tomorrow.
You think about 65,000 thoughts per day. 98% of those thoughts are the same ones you thought the day before. In fact, those same thoughts run continuously in your head, more or less in the back ground—because you are so used to hearing the chatter you no longer notice it.
IF your thoughts are your creation of your world and you repeat mostly the same ones every day then how can you change your definition of stress? How can you ever get out from under all that over whelm and pressure?
The only way to eliminate that stress is to live in the present moment and pay attention to your thoughts. Think thoughts now. Live with awareness of what you are feeling because your feelings reveal what you are thinking.
When you feel bad then change your thoughts to feel good thoughts. Your stress level must drop as you think fewer and fewer negative thoughts, because your frequency of vibration will rise to a feel good level!