Death and Love

When you care about someone who suffers the loss of a loved one, even if that someone is no longer part of your life, sometimes you just want to let them know how much you care.

Happiness: Why So Many People Fail to Know Happiness

Surprisingly, in today’s world unhappy people outnumber happy people by 4 to 1.

Last night I was listening to a noted doctor speak about depression. He said that 60% of people are clinically depressed. That shocked me!

What he said next floored me.

He shared that studies reveal that 80% of people are unhappy.

Those statistics beg the question, “Why are so may people feeling so bad at this time?”

Interesting question to ponder.

If you look from the outside, these times offer us everything at our fingertips. People can go online and order whatever they want from any place in the world.

Or they can play all kinds of games with people they would never have met in person. For that matter, people can do things with their mobile phones that were not even dreams just a few years ago.

The fact is people have more toys than ever. The number of timesaving devices invented in the past ten years far outnumbers the number of devices created over all of time!

Knowledge expands faster than anyone can fathom – or take in.

Yet people are more unhappy than ever. People are also more hassled than ever.

In a time of labor and timesaving devices and conveniences why are people so stressed? Why do people have less time than they did during simpler times in history?

I have a cell phone that I can hold in the palm of my hand. On that tiny device I have a camera, a speakerphone, a QWERTY keyboard, alarm, calendar, stopwatch, count-up timer, calculator—and even a phone!

Personally I rarely use it but I have all those tools for the occasion when I may need them (mostly when I travel). I can do anything on that little device that I can do on my laptop.

And therein lies part of the problem. People feel they have to be connected every moment. Many business people think if they do to respond to every call or tweet or update in the ocean of social media that they will lose ground to their competition.

Ah! The crux of the matter…

There is enough business for everyone. The stark reality that so many of these run-run-run people fail to see is they can have their share of customers and leave the rest for others to take their share!

Life is not a competition. Even business is not about competition.

Life is about caring about others and serving them in the best way you know how. Your mission, here, is to contribute your gift so all may benefit.

Look back through history. When civilizations become greedy and businesses and governments are all about “me” the entire system collapses.

You can see it happening now all around the world.

When you look though, you will also see the new breed of business owner who serves customers the best way possible and makes a difference for all of us and for the planet too.

Law Of Attraction: Ask And Ye Shall Receive

You really do get what you ask for – always. The thing is most people do not realize they make requests unconsciously every day and reinforce those requests while the conscious requests go by the way side.

The result? People constantly receive what they do not want.

When you put out a request you want to follow guidelines – far too many to go into here and now. The bottom line is ask for what you want rather than what you don’t want. When you stop resisting you will stop attracting what you focus on with your resistance.

You may have read my story about the mouse in my house dilemma. I felt just sick at the thought of killing it. We have become sort of friends. Sounds ludicrous – I know. We played hide and seek the other night.

Well, I am not going to re-tell that story. What I will tell you is I did buy the poison my friend recommended and it bothered me something awful to put it out. But a mouse in my kitchen, in my bedroom closet in my clothes leaving droppings…NO WAY acceptable.

When I heard the mouse cry and thrash about I feared the poison was slow acting and the animal was suffering. Killing a creature is bad enough. Making it suffer does not work for me.

So I changed my whole line of thinking about the situation.

I actually sent love to the mice (I am pretty sure there is more than one.) Yeah. I know that sounds really goofy. But think about this – the mouse is a Divine Being just as you and I are Divine Beings. It was created by the same Life Force that created us.

I believe, no, I know, that love is the solution to every problem. Sometimes I lose sight of that Truth—as happened here with the mice. So when I started sending it love and messages that I would help it leave my house suddenly I no longer saw or heard it.

Maybe I just did a super job of trapping it in my kitchen under the stove and it cannot get out. I don’t know. I just know I did not have to watch that little gray fur ball with those big black eyes run around my room last night.

The best part is, when I was in the store today the Universe sent me down an aisle where I found (Are you ready for this?) a humane mousetrap. I can put peanut butter inside to lure it in. When the trap door shuts the mouse does not get hurt. I get to take it to a field far from my house and let it go.

I don’t need to kill it. I don’t need to touch it. I don’t need to fear it touching me.

Talk about getting what you ask for…

NOW I feel relieved and at peace with myself. Tonight the trap goes up and I will see what happens.

Stress: End It By Allowing the Message In

The Universe (God, Creator) presents situations for you to grow. When you fail to allow the learning in the messages get louder and in your face in ever more painful ways.

When I moved to the country I had no clue how many pests could possibly exist in one yard. Seriously.

I spend hours removing all kinds of pests from my house and even from my yard. While I used to think it was not fair to remove them from my yard I re-thought that matter when I discovered they not only get in my front door I cannot even walk in my front yard. It is that dense with flies!

You see there is a cherry plum tree out front. And I live only half a mile from a dairy. With hat combination you might imagine I have a fly problem. I am talking thousands of flies. And some of them are the biggest flies I ever saw!

I find that animals (people too) grow bigger out here in the Northwest. I guess you have to be a hardy variety to live in desert winters and service desert summers.

Well I started wondering why so very many pests chose to live in my yard and my house. I am talking six legged, four legged and eight legged pests –above ground and underground pests, in the tree and under the rock pests!

In fact I just spoke with a pest control company about their services. He listed the entire gamut of species they eliminate. It was long list. And my house boasts every single creature on that list!

Hmm. I understand my neighbors have the same experience. So we all have something in common in why we moved here to discover about ourselves. Though I don’t mention that kind of thinking with my neighbors. I don’t want them to think I am weird, you know.

My first pest experience happened even before I moved in – spiders of all sizes and colors. Some very poisonous spiders and some garden variety. The thing is – they were inside my house.

I asked all non-human creatures to leave my house. And I did not see any spiders for many months and then…

Over a period of a few weeks spiders bit me nine times. My fingers were swollen and numb for eight months and I know the poison went into my bloodstream impacting my health.

One of my friends told me that spiders are messengers. I am still waiting to receive the message. I guess I need to get out of my own way to allow myself to see that solution.

What I know is no problem ever comes without a solution. So if spiders were biting me then I needed to do something about it that would allow me heal and, more importantly, stop the attacks (which always happened while I slept!).

Unfortunately I have not uncovered what I need to know. When I work at night I sit by French doors with my office light on) insects the size of my fist bang up against my door. They are too big to be moths. The huge ones are downright scary looking!

Hmm. A bird attacked my window a few weeks ago. I mean it was banging its wings furiously against my window, very intentionally against my window.

I guess it is time to meditate and get some guidance so I can allow in the messages I need to know. It took me long enough to figure that out, huh?

When we fail to hear the whispers of the Universe it presents the issue repeatedly. Each time it puts that issue/lesson in our face it gets bigger and more painful so eventually we have to notice what is happening.

Fun and Joy: What is the Difference Between Fun and Joy

Fun and joy both feel good, yet they are two different concepts that you experience in life.

Yes, even you. Even depressed traumatized people experience some joy and fun, even if only for brief moments, at some point in their lives.

Joy and fun serve two distinct purposes across your life. They differ in these 5 ways:

1. Fun is something you experience while taking some action. You may be reading or physically active. You have fun doing something.

Joy is more passive than active. You feel joy when thoughts (good feeling interpretations of events) cross your mind.

2. Fun births laughter. In fact when you have loads of fun you may find yourself laughing out loud or even rolling on the floor. Tears may run down your cheeks.
When you have fun you usually make noise. Think of people riding roller coasters and all their squeals.

Joy is more of an inner experience, a silent knowing of peace. You tend to experience joy as feeling content.

3. Fun is usually (but not always) a shared experience. You have fun with a friend or even with strangers. You probably are not alone when you do the things you describe as fun activities for you.

In fact part of the fun is seeing the experience through the eyes of the other people present.

You feel joy inside. No one else needs to be present. Joy is completely an inside job unique to each individual. Someone else’s joy may or may not be evident to you. And you will not miss your own experience of joy.

4. Fun is momentary. You do something that is fun. And then you are done doing the fun activity. Sure the memories may endure a long time (even forever) but the event ends.

Joy feels like a sense of accomplishment. It is not a goal but a place where you arrive emotionally or perhaps spiritually. Joy lingers in your body, mind and spirit.

5. Fun is easy to describe. You share the details of the activity ad others understand what you did. They may or may not agree that activity would be fun for them. Doesn’t matter. It was fun for you.

Joy is more abstract and intangible. Others may observe your face and body language yet describing how you feel, defining your joy – that is not easy. Maybe it is not even possible.

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