Happiness is Doing What You Know To Do

Most of us know exactly what we can do to feel good and be happy. The thing is, most of us fail to do what we know will work.

Why in the world do people act in ways contrary to their own best interest and highest good? Put another way, why do more people self-sabotage more often than they self-support?

The default thinking in Western society is that negative thoughts are real while positive thoughts are fantasy. Ludicrous, don’t you think? Why do people buy into such a concept?

It doesn’t matter why because they do. And the fact that they do feeds that thought energy pattern. Whatever you focus on grows bigger. Thoughts that receive energy from lots of people grow bigger and bigger until they become such huge thought forms that people who do not like to think for themselves (which encompasses most people) tune into that thought, take it as their own and live that way as their truth. That thought form becomes their reality.

Running right along with that negative way of thinking and living is the notion that hard work gets you more in life. And the harder you work the more money you make.
Or how about the idea that more money will solve their problems.

I have never seen so many people work so hard at one, two and even three jobs yet they barely make ends meet.
Or healthy food tastes like cardboard and other such nonsense.

What happens when people get a raise? Do they pay off their bills to live debt-free? More commonly they go out and buy more toys then wonder where the extra money went!

Why does the vast majority of people live with such self-deprecating behavior patterns?

Certainly is not because the information is not out there for all to grab and use.

People tell themselves all those lies and rationalize their current unhealthy patterns because they are lazy, emotionally lazy.

To live differently they would have to make time to look at what they must be thinking to have their world look exactly as it does. Moreover, they would have to take action to change their habits.

It takes time, money and effort to change what you think and how you feel. And it takes making a decision and commitment to living your life in a new and different way so you can enjoy a healthy body, mind and spirit.

Happiness Happens With Action NOT Knowledge

You will never make life changes by reading, listening and watching material. I don’t care how great the teachings are. You must take action to shift.

Why?

People who are terribly stuck, to the point they feel hopeless – people who find themselves numb to the concepts of happiness, joy and love – vibrate at frequencies too low to attract anything good that they want in life.

If that person is you then truly, you have to get yourself to a place of feeling happy first. To move to a place of feeling happy first you automatically raise your frequency. Then, and only then, will you attract what is good and positive to you.

I am guessing that sounds impossible right now. Am I right?

I obviously cannot assist you to the depth you need in a short article. So let me get you doing something.

The two best ways to raise your frequency FAST are

1. Make a list for every thing – every little and every big thing – for which you feel grateful. Grab a pad or notebook and create a gratitude journal and commit to writing in it every singe night right before falling asleep.

What that does is set you up, in your subconscious mind, to work on feeling grateful while you sleep. The more you express gratitude to the Universe (Creator, God, whatever term you use), the more it will deliver to you for which to be grateful.

Got that?

2. Go and do something (the important word is DO) for somebody else to make their life better. Volunteer somewhere or help a neighbor with a task.

Maybe you know a shut-in who could use a visit and company.  You want to get outside of yourself to change your energy. You want to take the focus off your unhappiness and being stuck.

Remember T. Harv Eker’s words, “Where attention goes energy flows.” In other words, what you think and feel about most of the time manifests in your life.

Action will move you – literally and figuratively. Thoughts will keep you mulling over what is wrong and missing.

Start there.

You can do this. Yes, you.

How do I know?

You finished reading this entire article. It takes courage to recognize something is amiss and take action to change that situation. Your commitment reveals a deep desire to make the changes you know in your heart, you want to – and CAN – make.

Life is all about feeling good. When you raise your frequency you will feel good and then you just know happiness and love and joy.

Happiness And Organization: How Do I Get Rid of Clutter?

Here’s the thing about clutter: your environment reflects what is happening in your mind. If your office is unorganized than realize your mind is too because your outside world ALWAYS reflects your inner world – always.

Really, once you complete organizing your home or office space you will feel noticeably lighter with more energy.

I bet you don’t feel the energy to get the job done. That is because you don’t really want to do it.

You look at the mess and figure it is going to take so much work, so much time ad so much energy – just the thought of tackling it becomes overwhelming. Am I right?

One of my friends makes mundane tasks into meditations OR fun. Can you create a game around the organizing routine? Can you see it as a spiritual event that connects you to your subconscious mind? After all that is what happens as you clear out the mess – your communications becomes clearer.

See yourself with the task all done. How do you feel? Experience that feeling right now. See what you see – literally. That will get you going and working on the job subconsciously. The result? You will find the boost you want.

When I cannot find what I need I get so terribly frustrated. I know I will need to waste time re-creating what I cannot locate. Those moments cause me to organize my papers, my desk and my home.

Right now I am on a new energy kick (detoxing works wonders!) so I can do what I need to do as well as what I want to do.

And I use a secret weapon that I will share with your right now. I found an accountability partner. I email her every day and let her know I did or did not do what I said I would do every day.

Tell you what, I am not about to embarrass myself by telling her I did not do my daily tasks! I recommend both an accountability partner and also a rewards system for yourself. Do something that makes you feel great on a scheduled basis. For instance, I watch a movie every three days I stay on target and I call a long-distance friend every 5 days.

I would not make the time to do either without those rewards being part of my campaign to keep my life straight and focused. So everything fits together in the big picture of my happiness.

Give yourself a reward every 3 or 5 days for staying on-track.

The one way to stand a better chance of succeeding is having an accountability partner. That is what I do. I just email her every day the list of things I say I will do on a daily basis.

No excuses, simply “Done” or “Not done.” I’d feel too embarrassed to send a “not done”. So no matter how I feel I get myself to do everything on my list.

That task moves your mindset to where you want it to be.

Happiness Means Never Experiencing Failure

Failure only happens in your mind if you choose to interpret events that way. Instead you can find the lesson or gift in what happened.

You can live in happiness and never experience failure.

What?

Failure is optional, a way some people interpret events in their lives. It is common knowledge that Thomas Edison found 10,000 ways not to invent the incandescent light bulb. Those were his words. He never saw any failures.

Why would someone choose not to accept failure? Because really you can only experience failure if you choose not to learn from the experience.

You can look for the lesson the discovery reveals in the unexpected results of your endeavor. How many great scientific discoveries and culinary delights happened when things did not go as the creator expected them to?

When you expect one result and a different one shows up you have a choice: throw in the towel with great disappointment OR look to see what you can garner from these new and different results.

Take a look at your life. When did you make the biggest steps forward in reaching your goals? When you met obstacles and challenges on your path. Right?

When the Universe forces you to think and act in new ways, when you must step outside your box and forge a new path – that is when you find your greatest successes!

People tend to coast through life when nothing comes up in their faces. They see no reason to expend extra energy pursuing more and better ways to be and experience life. So they settle for mediocrity- along with their neighbors and most people in the world.

Look at the lives of the most successful and happiest people on the planet. You will find a common thread of adversity. Every one of them hit rock bottom or survived a major life crisis that catapulted them into action.

Some people associate the word rejection with failure. Here again, the way you interpret the event determines whether or not you ever feel rejected.

I raised two performing kids. Talk about rejections. I wish I had known this when they stated their careers. I did eventually figure it out. But my figuring it out doesn’t mean they share my view. After all, you can know something in your head but moving that feeling into your heart takes conscious effort and a true understanding.

When someone says no they are not rejecting you personally. They are simply letting you know that no matter how talented you are you are not the person or set of skills they are looking for. In the case of acting roles – you may not have the “look” they want.

Guys, consider that when you ask out a girl and she turns you down that she just saved both of you the heartache of a date that bores both of you – or worse.

Make sense?

Self Esteem And Self Confidence: Two Different Things

Self Confidence and self esteem are two different concepts, two separate parts of who and how you are in the world. You can be very self confident in many areas of your life and yet suffer from low self esteem.

Confused?

Self esteem is how you feel about yourself. You alone make you feel good about yourself. You alone make you feel bad about yourself.

As a psychotherapist I heard people blame others for putting them down and destroying their self esteem. As Eleanor Roosevelt said, “You cannot keep a good man down without his permissions.”

No one has any power over you and no one can tell you how to feel about yourself. If someone makes a remark that you choose to interpret as hurtful or a put-down realize that you chose to take in the remark that way.

What if, in doing or saying what they did, that person had no idea you would assign the meaning you did and feel hurt? What if that person had zero intention of putting you or anything about you down?

Chances are that what I just proposed is accurate. Very few people speak with an intention to hurt others. Sure, there are some people who feel so bad about themselves they attempt to make themselves feel better by potting others down thinking that makes them superior. Of course that is their belief system (BS) and has no basis in reality.

Plain and simple, like everything else in your life, you totally create and control how you feel about you. In any moment, if you catch yourself beating yourself up or putting yourself down you can catch yourself and replace those thoughts with others that empower you to feel good about being you.

Self confidence is all about how well you feel you do the tasks you perform. When you know you do something well you have high self confidence. When you know you possess certain talents you feel very confident in those areas of your life.

Can you see that a person can be very self confident yet have low self esteem? Of course a person can perform amazing feats and suffer from both low self confidence and low self esteem.

Witness the number of celebrities (actors, sports figures, politicians) with drug problems. Most of them are very talented and very good at what they do. They clearly are very confident that they will perform well most of the time. They have high self confidence yet, if they were happy being who they are as they are, why would they turn to drugs to feel good?

People who need the adulation of others to feel good about themselves lack the self esteem that allows them to feel good about themselves just because they exist. Self esteem and self confidence are both do-it-yourself jobs.