Handling Stress In Any Situation

When you know how to tackle and defeat stress in your world then you can feel happy and great regardless of what is going on in your world.

Things will go bump in the night and in the daytime too. Life never flows in a smooth downstream direction. At best it meanders, even when it flows downstream.

How those events that pop up impact you depends entirely on you and how you choose to interpret them.

Do you ignore them and go on about your business considering them to be simple little nuisances that do not really have an effect on what you are doing?

While that thought may seem true on a surface level I caution you to remember that everything happens for a beautiful and Divine reason. Every little and every big thing. Nothing happens by accident. So that little accident was no accident at all.

Remember we are all connected to each other and to everything. We are one single energy, part of the Creator, God, Universe. Whatever we do impacts everyone else and vice versa.

Realize that whatever you do to others eventually comes right back to you – maybe multiplied many times over in how deeply it affects you.

Most people spend their time in their heads listening to the Little Voice tell them all about life while they experience it. Often the Little Voice reminds you about your past, especially about hurts and events that turned out bad or even scary.

The thing is, you listen to that Little Voice. In fact you do so automatically. You have been doing it for so long you don’t even know you do it.

Your Little Voice, right now is telling you to stop reading this article because all this is nonsense. Do you hear it saying something like that?

It is not your true voice at all.

That Little Voice censors everything you experience telling you if you agree with or like it, dislike it or think it is hogwash, etc.

Hmm. Hear it talking to you about these words and concepts?

What if, instead of listening to the Little Voice tell you about life you just experienced life in each moment.?

That practice (and it will take practice to break your life long habit of being led around by the Little Voice) is called conscious living. Living in the present moment and paying attention to what you actually feel, hear, see, taste and touch will feel like a totally new and different experience from listening to everything being described and judged by the Little Voice. By the way, that Little Voice prevents you from forming your own opinion of anything!

Want to live your life without stress? Tell your Little Voice, “Thank you for sharing. “ It will usually stop chatting. You may need to tell it that often. It will stop each time. Once you get the hang of it you will notice a marked difference in your freedom to truly enjoy your life in each moment. Joy will replace stress.

Stress: How and What You Think Creates Your Stress

What some people define as stressful others barely notice. In fact some people derive great joy doing activities that cause high stress levels in others. (Think roller coasters.)

Why do you allow yourself to feel stress when certain events happen? Do you always feel the same degree of stress from the same stimulus or does your level vary according to other factors like time of day, who you may or may not be with, how you feel physically or emotionally, etc.

Stop and think about what is going on in your head when you find yourself “up against it,” just short of freaking out. Seriously, take a step back and look at your thought process.

After all, your thoughts create your emotions that create your actions (or the lack of action) that lead to results. Then you start the cycle again by interpreting, with your thoughts, the results of the previous action.

Notice that word interpreting. Therein lies the key to why you find certain circumstances stressful while others simply do not bother you in the least.

Nothing has any meaning. Nothing anyone says or does has any meaning except for the meaning that you assign to it. How do you assign a meaning? You choose to view the circumstance as good or bad, happy or sad, right or wrong, etc.

You choose with your own mind using your own thought process.

What if you made those choices with awareness? What if you decided that you prefer feeling good in certain circumstances that currently leave you feeling overwhelmed or tense or pressured?

For me, growing up and living most of my life as a shy person the thought of a party invitation was enough to raise my freak out level to the max! If you have never been intensely shy you have no clue how such a thing could happen, right?

Well that doesn’t matter because the issue was mine to deal with. And I did. I saw myself as feeling good in new situations. I saw myself enjoying parties and making new friends.

Bottom line – I saw myself liking party invitations.

My thoughts changed a huge stressor into a joyful event.

No one could have talked me into liking parties. No one could have talked me out of being shy. Those were choices I made because, quite frankly, I prefer feeling great to feeling scared or anxious.

Feeling stressed is a choice people make. You can make different choices.

Stress and Well Being

Stress lowers your immunity leaving you vulnerable to getting sick more often. You probably create stress when you feel like you are coming down with the flu or a cold.

Did you ever stop to think that worrying about how you are going to pay all your bills or lose the weight you know you need to lose impacts your every day health too?

The more you worry about something the bigger that something looms in your life.  You become obsessed with thinking about that something all the time. You even wake up in the middle of the night and cannot get back to sleep because that thought keeps racing around in your head.

Here is the thing – it is just a thought. And you are the one who made up that thought. In fact you created the fear that continues to feed that thought.

What happens when you feed a monster? It grows into a bigger monster, right?

Stop and ask yourself if what you are thinking is possible. Next ask if that something comes to pass in your life what is the worst possible outcome for you? Chances are even the worst scenario can turn into a gift for you – when you learn to look at life that way.

Sure, life does not have to be a struggle yet somehow you refuse to learn your lessons until the Universe gets in your face with whatever you chose to ignore.

What do I mean?

You came here to learn soul lessons so you can grow on a spiritual level. The Universe sets up small obstacles on your path so you can easily learn those lessons.

If you are like most people you walk around those problems, pretending they do not exist. You act as though you do not even see them. If we do see them then you fail to acknowledge them as problems.

So the Universe presents the same issue in the form of a different person and situation – different in appearance but identical issue – for you to resolve. Again, you walk around the problem.

So the Universe presents the problem in a more pressing form – over and over again, each time creating more and bigger obstacles until finally you cannot get over, under or around the problem.

Your only choice is to burst through it and resolve the issue you have long ignored.

Once you resolve the issues that cause you stress you will not need to struggle. The Universe will no longer assist your lesson as you already figured it out.

In other words your life will shift into one of low stress that, when it comes up, you will know to clear the issue immediately instead of waiting for the Universe to create a series of unpleasant events.

Stress: Stop Trying to Remove Stress From Your World

Stress happens when you interpret events as causing you unnerving discomfort. Obviously such a feeling makes you want to stop it from repeating itself.

Observe this BIG clue about how to end stress: stop trying to eliminate stress. You cannot accomplish when you try. Try allows for the possibility of not succeeding.

So right off the bat, remove the word try from your vocabulary to allow yourself the true opportunity to succeed in eliminating the stress.

Realize that whatever you focus on expands in your life. What do you do when you work at removing something, like stress, from your life? Even if you work really hard at something what you really do is magnify it in your life. Your attention feeds it.

How can you eliminate something by helping it to grow bigger and more pronounced?

Obviously you can’t. So the way to eliminate stress is not by trying, not by working at it and certainly not by thinking about it all the time—something you call worry.

Most people think that when you worry about something you are actually doing something about it. Are you kidding? How does worry serve any purpose at all except to raise your stress level, create anxiety and cause physical symptoms in you as your subconscious mind puts you through the scenario that you are imagining!

Your subconscious cannot tell when you really live an event versus when you imagine an event happening.

Ah – now take that last sentence as your clue. What?

You want to eliminate the stress you experience. You know your subconscious mind makes real anything you imagine. Therefore, if you create a scenario in which you do not experience stress (even though, in the past you did feel very stressed in this same circumstance) then you succeed in removing the stress from that very event.

One powerful way to make that happen is to picture yourself entering the situation you want to change. And you can only change yourself. So no one else will act differently (well, probably not).

So now you see the picture of yourself in that same formerly stressful event only this time you act differently. You see the entire situation in a new light, from a different perspective. You cannot even figure out why you used to feel stressed at such times.

You can watch yourself, as though you are watching a movie – the first time. But next time, and every time after that, actually step into the situation and look out through your eyes. Hear what you will hear through your ears. Feel what you feel and touch and smell what you will feel, touch and smell.

Remember that your subconscious is making all of this real for you.

Victory. Your subconscious mind will become convinced that, in that situation, you act this new way. And the next time that situation comes up you remember to consciously step into this new way of behaving and you will no longer feel stressed – even though nothing about the situation itself changed.

All that changed is how you feel about it and the actions you take that let you feel differently.

Stress Relief: #1 Stress Relief Tip

There is a single priority stress relief tip. Without this one, nothing else will work permanently or completely.

Stress relief is a do-it-yourself job. You can glean tips from other people but you alone carry through on what you know you can and will do.

The way to relieve stress is to love yourself first. It is not selfish. It is mandatory.

What do I mean by mandatory?

Can you ever give away something that you do not have yourself? Can you possibly horn and respect anyone you do not love?

Until you love, honor and respect yourself you will continue to please others. You will do everything in your power to make them happy. In fact you will neglect your own needs for rest and nourishment (physical, emotional and spiritual) to place the needs of others ahead of your own.

Each of those habits creates tremendous stress for you in all those three areas: physical, emotional and spiritual. So long as you take on being responsible for how others live their lives and whether or not they are happy you cannot possibly reduce your stress level, let alone eliminate it.

Realize that no matter how hard you work you cannot please others enough. Besides, that is their job not yours.

Your job is to please you. Theirs is to please themselves. If anyone tells you differently see their falsehood for the lie it is. When someone expects you to put their needs ahead of yours they are acting in a very selfish manner.

In the words of Oliver Wendell Holmes, “Selfishness is not doing what you want to do. Selfishness is expecting others to do what you want them to do.”

See the difference in how you taking care of your own needs (not telling others what to do for you) is no way, no how selfish?

Until you take care of your own needs and leave taking care of the needs of others to others you will not love yourself. Until you love yourself you will not live stress-free.

Unless you live stress-free you will never know happiness – let alone joy and wealth.

You need to live your life for you.

What do you love to do? You need to create psychic income not just money. You came here to fulfill on a purpose.

If you spend your life making others happy can you do what you feel driven to do? Can you do what you desire, more than anything, to accomplish?

Remember, this is your life. You can only live it when you eliminate the stress that holds you back.