Psychotherapy: How Talking About Your Problems Prevents Solving Them

When working with a psychotherapist you talk about your problems to move out of pain. Talking about problems makes them worse.

To talk about something you have to think about it. You search your memory banks for all evidence that confirms what you are saying. Consequently you bring up painful topics and relive past experiences – those that you think caused your life to stop working the way you believe it should.

When you talk about painful experiences you lower your frequency of vibration.

You can only attract events, people and things that vibrate in harmony with your current frequency of vibration. Low frequencies attract people, things and events that vibrate at low frequencies while high frequencies attract everything and everyone vibrating at the high levels.

All that you desire, all the good and happy things you say you want in life, vibrate at high frequencies.

Hmm.

You cannot possibly attract the good things you say you want while talking about and focusing your energy and time on what hurts.

Does it serve you to live in your past? Do you feel good when you talk about events that you interpreted as hurtful to you?

How can it help to wonder why someone did something to you that left you feeling unhappy, in pain, lost or disillusioned?

Does staying in such feel bad energy raise your vibration? Does it move you to a place where you feel good about yourself and your life?

Beware of Psychotherapists Working On Their Own Issues

Do you really want to work with a psychotherapist who has not resolved his or her own issues?

Psychotherapists are people – just like everybody else, right? They live through growth experiences and handle life their way.

I once heard a colleague describe a service he called Therapist’s Central. He said the Universe links together clients with issues ABC and psychotherapists dealing with issue ABC.

A social worker doing psychotherapy once told me her clients make her do her own work to stay one step ahead of her clients.

Hmmm.

Would you take wellness advice from an overweight out of shape doctor?

Can you honestly expect someone who does not know how to resolve his or her own issues to assist you with yours?

Even worse that the above scenario is the psychotherapist who fantasizes that all is well with him or her yet continues to experience conflict, dissatisfaction or lack in any area of life.

In my experience as a psychotherapist I found that people who tell you how happy they are rarely are happy at all. They work to convince themselves all is well within when the rest of the world sees the obvious struggle in their daily behaviors.

It may surprise you to know that many therapists take drugs to alter their moods, to stay focused, to stay calm, or to know peace. They know what medications to ask for and they know which doctor will prescribe what they desire.

Most psychotherapists chose their profession because someone helped them through a crisis or they truly want to assist others in living happier, healthier lives. Many psychology degree programs require students to become a client to clear out any issues within.

That is the great news. The less great news is how do you eliminate what is completely out of your awareness? Because, you see, when programs run in the subconscious mind of the therapist those blocks may well impact how they work with their clients.

Neither client nor therapist is privy to that fact.

5 Tips To Find Happiness Now

Happiness eludes most people.

No matter how much one accomplishes in life, people always want more. Most people think the more they do, the more they achieve, the more recognition, the more material things they get will bring them that elusive quality called happiness.

Happiness does not come from anything outside. No one can make you happy. No one can make you feel good about being you—but you.

These five tips will move you to that seemingly far away place where happy people dwell:

1. Know exactly what you want in your life that will allow you to finally know happiness. Get clear on what your daily world must look like for you to feel fulfilled. Until you know where you are heading how can you know how to take your first step? You need to know your endpoint before you can map your route to get there.

2. Where are you right now? You also need to know your starting point when planning a route. To note your progress you want to see where and how you once lived so you can see the changes—even the subtle changes, you make each day. By comparing your new end point each day to the day before place you provide your own motivation to forge ahead on the path to your dream life.

3. Realize that your current life is actually pretty good–compared to how many people live around the globe. I know that fact because you have access to a computer. You know how to use it. And you know how to read and type. Wow! Do you realize how amazing your life is simply because of those few things you take for granted? Now look across your life and discover every little thing for which you feel thankful. Do it now.

4. Recognize that you create your tomorrow with the thoughts, decisions and actions you take today. Live in this present moment. Your past is over and done. All you have is now. Whatever happened in the past happened in the past. Period. Your future starts now. Pay attention to what you think and the choices you make now for they create your tomorrow.

5. Connect to your spirituality. No one reaches inner peace without knowing their spiritual side. No one else can tell you what to believe. You get to choose.

Happiness: Does Technology Compete With Happiness? (You Bet)

When people rely on technology to connect with people they limit their level of happiness – the kind that only happens in face-to-face encounters (and I do not mean video phone to video phone).

Traveling across the United States brought to my attention the very widespread use of technology on a practically non-stop basis. It appears that people are either afraid to be out of touch with their personal and business contacts OR they are so addicted to the gadgets they suffer withdrawal when they cannot use them.

Ride the metro rail in the Washington, D.C. area to witness that separation between people. Most people are either on their smart phones or iPads. People rarely speak to anyone in their presence or nearby vicinity.

Some restaurants post notices banning the use of cell phones.

Did you ever see a group of friends (I label friends because they come and go together), each one on a cell phone talking to somebody who is some place other than with them!

Today while flying across the country I noticed that people talked early in the flight – you know, during the take-off period while the plane climbs to cruising altitude and you cannot use electronics.

Upon reaching the cruising altitude most people fell silent as phones and computers lit up across the plane.

No. Not every person – many people.

For the final half hour of the flight, again when electronics go off, you could hear the buzz of conversation.

Interesting, yes?

Technology keeps people in their homes getting to know people on the other side of the country or the globe. How many people talk to or even know their next-door neighbors?

How to Fulfill Your Desires

When you feel a desire, something you want to be, do or have in life, KNOW that the Universe put it into your heart because you CAN manifest it.

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